HopingStill Posted June 23, 2005 Posted June 23, 2005 I got out of a 7 1/2 year relationship about 7 months ago. We lived together for 4. The problem is I still LOVE this girl and think about her constantly. I have shifted from th ehope of her coming back now to th ehope of her coming back in the future. My friends think I've lost it and why would I want her back since she started dating my x-BedtFriend 3 months after we broke up(thougth the break up was my fault). I love her deeply. And smile whenever I think of her still. Well I found out she is moving out of state. Which hit me like a brick to the face. How does one get over someone who seems to have moved on. Have I lost it at this point?
kimmi46 Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 I believe to get over loving someone that has moved on you need to stay busy, work, go to school, join a bowling league, just occupy your time with whatever you choose to do, maybe get some counselling, stay around people. I think if you are too obsessed with loving someone, it is unhealthy. Whether you want her back or not, think of these words, "I can't make you love me if you don't", and try to go on with your life.... There will be someone new for you, once you learn to let go of that last gal... Best of luck! Tip: Don't move out of state to follow her. She is trying to make a new start for her own life.
FiguringitoutinFL Posted June 26, 2005 Posted June 26, 2005 I feel for you, my ex-fiancee left me after being together for 4.5 years. What I have found is that things do get much better with time and distance. While you are upset that she is moving away, it is probably the best thing that could happen to you. My ex is moving back home (4 hour drive) and I am relieved that after this move there will be no possibility of me running into her around town and seeing her ever again. Sounds harsh, but out of sight out of mind really helps. Take kimmi46 advice and what ever you do, dont follow her! Dont worry you have not lost it, it will help you best to read the message boards here and know that you are not alone in how you feel. It will take time but you will eventually feel much better. Hang in there.
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