Ex Girlfriend Unblocked me on Facebook

[Gemini_jo]

Posted this in the 'Coping' forum, but not getting much feedback and I keep thinking about it here at work so wanted to try over here on the Break-Up forum

 

I’m going to try and make this as short as possible, while providing as much back story as possible.

 

Ex-Girlfriend:

 

1) Together 3 years

2) First love high school sweetheart

3) Ended horribly 2 years ago

4) She started dating somebody completely different a month later

5) She ended all contact, blocked me on everything and I have not spoken to her in two years

6) It was her 23rd birthday 2 days ago

 

I just had this curious feeling yesterday if I typed her name into facebook that she would pop up (even though I’ve been blocked for so long) and BOOM. There she was.

 

She’s not with the guy she left me for any longer and she found a job where we are both from.

 

Me:

 

1) I still dream about her

2) When I hook up and fool around with girls I think, “This would be so much better if it was her”

3) I’m not in love or yearning for her, but I am interested in seeing her again

4) Unblocking on FB means nothing right?

 

I think I already know the answer to this in that these feelings are normal and I need to just keep on keeping on with life, right?

 

Why do I feel there is unfinished business between the two of us?

[NoLeafClover]

Are you that naive to think unblocking you means she might want you...facebook also has instant messenger, messenger and a poke button...why choose the unblock button as to a hint when it means nothing more than taking you off the block list.

It has nothing to do with direct contact.

 

My take is you should change the way you think about her and ex's in general. Any ex that breaks up with you just to jump into someone else a month after is not someone legit and worth over thinking for. Obviously you can't control feelings, but understand any step you make to reach for her will push you back to day 1 from 2 years ago. No ex is worth breaking NC for after they replaced you with someone else in a month.

You are young and I don't expect you to perceive this like someone with more experience. Just remember what matters the more at the end when things don't work out...is dignity.

[smudge21]

Ignore. If she wanted any contact with you, then she would contact you. All this social media stuff just annoys me as it mostly isn't real, just bland postcards of peoples lives. So what if her profile is open, it means nothing. The longer you think about it, the more you'll make of it though, so let it go and carry on living. It's clear you never got over this girl and you do need to work on letting her go. She let you go a long time ago, that's the truth.

[PegNosePete]

4) Unblocking on FB means nothing right?

It means that you need to block her, instead.

 

Don't let her actions control your emotions. Take the driving seat.

[keiji]

You did get feedback, and most people here told you it means nothing. I know you probably need to hear that she's crazy about you and that the fact she unblocked you means a lot, but it doesn't.