Flaky girl comes back??

[Grey40]

hey so I posted about this a couple weeks ago, but didn't feel like searchin through the pages to find the thread. Have an update on the situation.

 

I asked this girl to hang out, she seemed really excited, then flaked. She offered to hang out the following day instead, then didn't respond or message me that entire day until late at night an apologized again but had no excuse as to why she flaked again.

 

Everyone on here was telling me that she's not interested, has other options etc, to which I agreed and forgot about her and moved on. 10 days later, she just texts me last night saying :

 

Her: Hey there "nickname" (actually uses a playful nickname, the same name other girls who liked me in the past used which is strange.)

 

Me: Hey there "nickname" (threw one back at her). What's up?

 

Her: chilling, let's hang soon!

 

Me: Sounds like a plan. Are you free Saturday night?

 

No response. You can't make this **** up. I probably should have said I was busy and couldn't hang out or just ignored her entirely. But it's too late for that now. Any ideas what the deal is with this chick? Is she really just that bored and in need of validation?

[PegNosePete]

Yes, just bored and/or drunk.

 

Look on the bright side. If she did respond positively to your invitation to "hang", she would probably have flaked again anyway.

 

Next time she contacts you I suggest a new nickname for her, "flakey".

[kztar]

OP move ON. Don't entertain this girl. Once flaky, ALWAYS flaky. Believe me. They come back to only FLAKE AGAIN.

 

Flaky people have these flaky tendencies. It's up to you to not entertain such BS. She is clearly still on the same road.

 

I don't understand these people. Honestly im so over people flaking, like just be honest and say "hey im not interested". No one bites or takes things in such drastic manners when just dating.

[Grey40]

OP move ON. Don't entertain this girl. Once flaky, ALWAYS flaky. Believe me. They come back to only FLAKE AGAIN.

 

Flaky people have these flaky tendencies. It's up to you to not entertain such BS. She is clearly still on the same road.

 

I don't understand these people. Honestly im so over people flaking, like just be honest and say "hey im not interested". No one bites or takes things in such drastic manners when just dating.

 

Yup, totally agreed. And I have moved on, but was just curious why she hasn't. I mean I'm not nessecarily looking for anything other than a hook up with her at this point, there's no way I could take her seriously after being like this.

[tayriley]

i despise flaky people. when someone is excited to go on a date, they make time for it. flaking is the worst because it indicates to the other person that they are not worth their time. dont let her do it to you more. cut the cord, block her number, forget her!

[kztar]

Yup, totally agreed. And I have moved on, but was just curious why she hasn't. I mean I'm not nessecarily looking for anything other than a hook up with her at this point, there's no way I could take her seriously after being like this.

 

Good for you, that you've moved on. Totally but at the end of the day people still need to respect YOUR time. WHATEVER the case is your time is PRECIOUS. For a hookup, relationship, a friendship. ANYTHING.

 

I had a guy do the same to me actually, and I called him out on his bs. He was mad that I called him out on his BS but not my problem. My time is way to precious for that.

 

People need to not waste my unlimited texts and calls for nothing LOL. Im too grown to be playing games and dealing with FLAKY people. We're adults here.

[Larryville]

OP move ON. Don't entertain this girl. Once flaky, ALWAYS flaky. Believe me. They come back to only FLAKE AGAIN.

 

When someone flakes on you and you mentally obsess and continue to give them your time and mental energy it only says that you don’t value yourself or your time.

I’m seeing more people post about flaking and ghosting and for the life of my I don’t get why people can’t see the obvious.

 

They flaked on you for a reason, many of you can indeed figure out exactly why if you are willing to be honest with yourselves.

[Toodaloo]

Yup, totally agreed. And I have moved on, but was just curious why she hasn't. I mean I'm not nessecarily looking for anything other than a hook up with her at this point, there's no way I could take her seriously after being like this.

 

She hasn't moved on because for her you were only light entertainment and an ego boost anyway...

 

Next time (because she will) do not bother answering. You will not even get a hook up out of this one... she will flake on that too...

 

If it makes you feel any better guys do this as well. Its not gender specific.

 

I have guys who still want to talk after a year and each time they flake. I just ignore them. It gets dull very quickly and I have better things to do than waste my phone bill or time on them...

[phineas]

I ignore flaky women.

Sometimes they act "sad" when I ignore them.

At that point I have actually said "your flaky behavior is a massive turn-off. I don't even know why you are contacting me. lose my number"

 

within a month they are hitting me up.

Ignore.

 

within 6 months they are hitting me up again and at that point I make THEM work for my attention.

I tell them I have to jet just as their starting to flirt with me.

I let them initiate and then i finally tell them "texting is boring, you should ask me out so we can talk face to face"

 

eventually they do & I tell them dinner at my place.

they have no choice.

Well they can choose to stop texting me but if they want to see me they are coming to me.

 

Guess what?

They do a lot of the times.

 

Guess what we end up doing every time one comes to my house.

And THEY initiate it because I play it cool.

 

These women though are just for fun.

 

Just gotta be patient and show them you arn't going to tolerate their flaky behavior without acting butthurt.

 

This is the state of dating in the late 30's / early 40's unfortunately.

not all were met online either.

[kztar]

I ignore flaky women.

Sometimes they act "sad" when I ignore them.

At that point I have actually said "your flaky behavior is a massive turn-off. I don't even know why you are contacting me. lose my number"

 

within a month they are hitting me up.

Ignore.

 

within 6 months they are hitting me up again and at that point I make THEM work for my attention.

I tell them I have to jet just as their starting to flirt with me.

I let them initiate and then i finally tell them "texting is boring, you should ask me out so we can talk face to face"

 

eventually they do & I tell them dinner at my place.

they have no choice.

Well they can choose to stop texting me but if they want to see me they are coming to me.

 

Guess what?

They do a lot of the times.

 

Guess what we end up doing every time one comes to my house.

And THEY initiate it because I play it cool.

 

These women though are just for fun.

 

Just gotta be patient and show them you arn't going to tolerate their flaky behavior without acting butthurt.

 

This is the state of dating in the late 30's / early 40's unfortunately.

not all were met online either.

 

Im a female and this goes both ways. Flaky behavior from both females and males, not tolerable.

[phineas]

Im a female and this goes both ways. Flaky behavior from both females and males, not tolerable.

 

But, can you game a flaky guy into coming to your house for a first date & sleeping with you?

[kztar]

But, can you game a flaky guy into coming to your house for a first date & sleeping with you?

 

Ofcourse I can. LMAO. Most men don't flake sex, BELIEVE ME. However, this is a manipulative way to do things. I rather just cut the cord and go get me a consistent FB who is on call for me when I feel like it.

[Audacious]

hey so I posted about this a couple weeks ago, but didn't feel like searchin through the pages to find the thread. Have an update on the situation.

 

I asked this girl to hang out, she seemed really excited, then flaked. She offered to hang out the following day instead, then didn't respond or message me that entire day until late at night an apologized again but had no excuse as to why she flaked again.

 

Everyone on here was telling me that she's not interested, has other options etc, to which I agreed and forgot about her and moved on. 10 days later, she just texts me last night saying :

 

Her: Hey there "nickname" (actually uses a playful nickname, the same name other girls who liked me in the past used which is strange.)

 

Me: Hey there "nickname" (threw one back at her). What's up?

 

Her: chilling, let's hang soon!

 

Me: Sounds like a plan. Are you free Saturday night?

 

No response. You can't make this **** up. I probably should have said I was busy and couldn't hang out or just ignored her entirely. But it's too late for that now. Any ideas what the deal is with this chick? Is she really just that bored and in need of validation?

 

dude , she did not "come back " , she is re-flaking on you , stringing you along , checking if she represent something to you , next time she texts you , just wait for 6 hours then reply with nonchalance , if she offers to hang out , tell her that you're so busy at work and say some later time . never specify .

 

girls like that are narcissist , they feed off your attention and interest in her . cut this off and she'll chase you wanting more of the same

[phineas]

Ofcourse I can. LMAO. Most men don't flake sex, BELIEVE ME. However, this is a manipulative way to do things. I rather just cut the cord and go get me a consistent FB who is on call for me when I feel like it.

 

cutting the cord isn't that easy for men.

Some/most? women do not like being ignored and knowing somewhere out there she lost a guys attention.......

So they amp it up and don't leave a guy alone when they ignore her.

 

I'm just out manipulating a manipulator.

And getting laid with very little effort in the process.

 

I didn't know there were guys who continually hit up women then flaked on them in the dating world.

 

They must be really hot or really rich where they can get away with that because I can't believe there are a lot of guys like this.

 

Women get away with it because men are dumb.

We always retain hope the hot chick who bailed on us will stick around this time around. i've been guilty of it also in the past.

[Buddhist]

I have a friend who does that **** all the time. You'll send him a text, might get one of two back then it's like he fell into a black hole, even mid conversation. Next time he texts you it's like nothing happened.

 

You just ignore those people. I put it down to my friend having the attention span of a goldfish.

[Jabron1]

Don't worry about it, mate.

 

You did the right thing. Just cut the crap, and lead things straight to something productive.

 

In my opinion, men don't get "strung along". Men string themselves along. Then they cry about it later.

 

Just escalate, she'll drop off if that's not what she wants. She can either follow, or not. Who cares? Next.

 

Don't let this kind of sh*t bother you. It's mildly irritating at worst - like a housefly.