healthyhopes Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 So I am going to graduate highschool within a couple of days. That's it, it's done. I've been reminiscing a lot lately about life and all the experiences I've had and people I've met. One of my friends who graduated last year told me that he only kept in touch with about 3 people after highschool ended (and I am the only one he really still speaks to now...) and that chilled me to the bone. I've been assured by many others that this is not true but it still haunts me. This, of course, got me thinking about breakups. I learned a lot of things in dating the people I have dated, and so the notion of leaving them all freaked me out quite a bit before I actually moved on. (except for the last one, who I haven't even dated, but who I learned many important life lessons from) X1: He was a coward and after he realized that I was bullied in middle school (we were just about to enter freshman year) he began to completely withdraw and distance himself from me. I had to dump him over text because he would avoid me in public. He was doing the slow fade. I didn't speak to him at all after that except for when I sought him out in the hallway to shake his hand for a final closure (he was my first boyfriend and I had a very low self esteem at the time. It was an excruciating long couple of months but after I did this, I moved on....). There were a couple of tiny breadcrumb-y things from his side before the handshake, but the only time we came in direct contact after that was years later. I was in the car with a friend speaking about XFWB (see bellow) and our other friend's ex and about the lessons we have learned from breakups. I turned around and in the car next to us was him, staring into our car. I nodded, he nodded. And that was that. X2: He was a narcissist and lost interest in me but didn't say it. He wouldn't talk to me for weeks and then blame me for unnecessary stuff. Etc Etc Etc. I tried talking to him before I moved on but he was cold and cruel. After I moved on I saw who he really was and began to avoid him and treat him how he should be treated (with respect, however). He then reached out and it appeared that he was either testing the waters for reinconcilliation or for some twisted version of friendship, and then got very pissed when I did not act the way he would have liked. Now it is clear that we do not like each other but do not speak. I don't care much. XFWB: I don't wanna repeat too much since I've already said the whole story many times over when I was freshly and not-so-freshly heartbroken. I have finally accepted what happened, and feel better than I ever have for a long, long time. I can cleanly say that I have moved on. However:This is the only one I fear I will never talk to again, despite the fact that we have already not talked to months. Despite the fact that this was a short thing, I had a genuine emotional connection that I hadn't felt with many others with this one, and I honestly miss my friend. After highschool, I think I will never see him ever again. Perhaps it's just the notion of loss that gets to me, despite the fact that he's already been "lost" (and, on top of that, was never found in the first place). We had a texting conversation where we caught up about a month ago, but since that we haven't spoken since. I did catch him staring at me twice a bit after though, so I don't think he has completely forgotten about me. However I think it's 100% done this time. How about you? Are there any exes you have never spoken to again? If you did speak to each other again, how was it?
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