sarah999 Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 So a few years back, this guy who's parents are good friends with my parents, moved back in town. His parents think I am amazing (they kinda told my parents) and my parents told me he's a great guy, great "match" for me. This happened a few years back. I've never hung out with guys much before as I am shy. So he came over two times and he's kind of shy I guess. We had some conversations and I think we did talk for a few hours and we went to the movies. But it kind of felt like I had to put in effort into conversations. After he left, I texted him to thank him for coming over and he never texted back. And my parents asked me to text him the 3rd time to invite him over and he took 24 hours to text back and said he had stuff to do with friends. We had a few fb messages back and forth but then one day he just read the message and didn't respond. And that was like last year. My parents keep saying it's OK, he's just busy, or he's nervous around me and I should talk to him more. Tell me honestly, he is not interested, is that correct? So now I am dating this other guy who actually spends time with me and messages me a lot and cares about me and we have the deepest conversations ever. BUT my parents still think this other guy is better in terms of "looks" and family background. So they went ahead and contacted the other guy's parents and kinda implied for him to come over again. It feels awkward. Like my parents are arranging everything and the guy is not interested?
Conviction Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 No, he's not interested. I don't mean that in a harsh way, it's just the way it is. If he was, he wouldn't have ghosted you for a year. As far as your parents go. Don't date people based on what your parents want, date someone because it's what you want. Sure, take their advice to heart, but don't do it just because it's what they want.
Zippy2000 Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 Hes not interested. It shows with his actions. If someone likes you enough he would message you to get to know you. He doesnt want to get any closer so he is limiting his communication with you. The hardest thing for a lot of people is rejecting someone. Hes probably not mature enough to reject someone with respect and sensitivity. You need to concentrate on your new partner who is willing to give you as a couple a chance.
Author sarah999 Posted May 25, 2016 Author Posted May 25, 2016 Well, OK. I understand. I have had no prior experience with dating or with guys so at first I didn't know what to look for. I kinda did like the first guy at first but I guess I didn't know the signs and my parents kept saying it was because he is "busy with school" and "he'll come around" and I believed it. What I feel about my current guy is nothing like I've felt before. I will let the first guy go because I have feelings for my current guy and I know he has feelings for me as well. Looking through my old messages, I just saw that the first guy took around 5-7 days to answer me on facebook. Wow. Why was I so blind? My current guy replies in a couple minutes, rarely a few hours. I want to tell my parents to stop interfering
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