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I'm 28 years old, she is 24, we broke up almost 2 months ago. Her and I never fought, every now and then got into little disagreements, in February I took her skiing for her birthday she never went before and we did the bunny hill for a while and then I convinced her to go down the mountain, well bad idea we went on the ski lift and she freaked out she fell a couple times and starting fighting with me she told me " Its the little things that you do" then it started to go downhill from there, the next month she texted me saying she has doubts about us working out unless I work on the things that need to be done ( used tobacco, save more money) I got a new teacher job in a prison and I told her I would quit when I started, well I did but I told her when I am home I am going to still use it. Now fast forward to almost a couple months ago and she called me before coming over crying and saying she cant do this anymore, she said we are too different and she knows that we would get divorced if we stayed together, I did not say much I kept my cool and told her " Im not going to sell myself to you, its a mistake though". we ended there and a couple days later I got an email from HBO GO saying username was changed (its her account but the username was my last name) I texted her and told her whatever stuff she owns I wont use, she texted me saying " I know, it just made me cry whenever I saw it" I told her " I dont get it, I would have done anything to make it work, therapy or whatever we needed" it wasn't enough I guess. I quit tobacco the day she left me for myself. Since then I have been working on my new job and working out, I also started using tinder again, slept with a couple girls to get my mind off of her, but I think about her all the time, and honestly I still love her. I am debating on texting her telling her all I have accomplished recently in hopes to maybe get her back, should I do that or stay no contact and wait it out? she broke up with me so I feel I should stay NC but the relationship was not toxic, never cheated, always were with each other. It kind of reminds me of Curb your enthusiasm when Cheryl left Larry just the little things added up.

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Read the NC guide again.

noooooo!! NO!

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I did read that, every case may be different though?

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NOOOOOOO

 

Maintain NC. Good luck!

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I did read that, every case may be different though?

 

Read it again you missed something. Its normal to want to connect but you cant.

I know it hurts but nope...stay strong. You will be so glad you did.

Go to gym, run, travel, read, journal....anything to stay busy.

She wasnt your WHOLE world right?

Learn to like your own company.

Distract yourself from obsessing. Your ok buddy!

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Thank you, I have decided to stay NC, what do you think the chances she will reconnect? I am trying to stay off her instagram, blocked her on everything else, she still has pictures of us together on it.

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I have an ex who never deleted old pictures. Every relationship she's had in the Facebook era is still documented on her page. It means nothing.

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