Grey40 Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 yay or nay? Does it come off desperate? Would she even have the balls to contact anyways? Wonder if this is ever successful.
RecentChange Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 I prefer to get a number rather than give one because then the ball is in my court - but I am forward and don't really play by the rules. Course last time I got a number, I didn't use it for months, but he did eventually end up in my pants. Your results may vary
Shanex Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 In which context? A cold approach is pretty hard and is a mine field best left to PUAs In a party, a bar, a club it will be much easier On a dating site it's pretty common.
Author Grey40 Posted May 24, 2016 Author Posted May 24, 2016 In which context? A cold approach is pretty hard and is a mine field best left to PUAs In a party, a bar, a club it will be much easier On a dating site it's pretty common. Well I'm talking specifically in this instance about on a dating site. After some good conversation, I gave her my number and told her to let me know when she wants to go out. But I was asking the question for just in general in any context.
d0nnivain Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 You are better off asking for her #. Most women won't call you even if they have your # but you don't have hers. In any situation you need to be the person in control. 2
Shanex Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 OP then i will answer from experience, it doesn't have to take weeks to exchange phone numbers, after a couple days or a week at most of interesting convo, suggest to give your number. Then see for an actual date.
Gloria25 Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 To me it demonstrates low interest. Cuz no matter how people wanna play this "equality" game, a man hunts/pursues... So, when a guy gives me his tel, it says that he wants to sit on his butt and be a "boy" instead of a "man".
alphamale Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 yay or nay? Does it come off desperate? Would she even have the balls to contact anyways? Wonder if this is ever successful. never give a chick your digits. if she is interested she'll give you a way to contact her. it is ok, however, to exchange numbers...but don't call/text right away, wait a few days. this will make you look 1
sc0316 Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 OP: why didn't you just suggest meeting up soon instead of asking when she'd like to meet up? I wouldn't know how to respond if a guy did what you did to me. 1
Author Grey40 Posted May 24, 2016 Author Posted May 24, 2016 OP: why didn't you just suggest meeting up soon instead of asking when she'd like to meet up? I wouldn't know how to respond if a guy did what you did to me. I did initially. She said she was working this weekend and couldn't hang out, I said alright and kept the conversation moving, she wasn't giving me her number and I guess didn't seem ultra interested so I just gave her mine and think I'll probably delete her. If she decides to contact cool, if not, no harm no foul. Have you found it hard to get meet ups to happen? I pretty much always suggest meeting up within the first 5 messages, and that probably my problem. I just don't want to invest time talking on an app when I could just meet hem at a public place and see if we click. I understand why women are scared/leary about meeting in person, because of creeps and stuff..but I don't want to bull**** around asking dumb interview questions. 1
sc0316 Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 I did initially. She said she was working this weekend and couldn't hang out, I said alright and kept the conversation moving, she wasn't giving me her number and I guess didn't seem ultra interested so I just gave her mine and think I'll probably delete her. If she decides to contact cool, if not, no harm no foul. Have you found it hard to get meet ups to happen? I pretty much always suggest meeting up within the first 5 messages, and that probably my problem. I just don't want to invest time talking on an app when I could just meet hem at a public place and see if we click. I understand why women are scared/leary about meeting in person, because of creeps and stuff..but I don't want to bull**** around asking dumb interview questions. Actually I like your approach: suggesting to meet after a just a few messages.
Author Grey40 Posted May 24, 2016 Author Posted May 24, 2016 Actually I like your approach: suggesting to meet after a just a few messages. Thanks that's good to know. So if a guy offered to meet up with you after a few messages and you were interested how would you handle it? Would you agree right away? Or play hard to get?
SammySammy Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 Nay. I don't do it. At the very least, I'll exchange numbers. Get the number and take the initiative to call her. That's just part of being a man. Deal with it. 2
sc0316 Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 Thanks that's good to know. So if a guy offered to meet up with you after a few messages and you were interested how would you handle it? Would you agree right away? Or play hard to get? I wouldn't play hard to get myself, but I'm not sure about younger ladies. Although I tend to wait a day or so to reply to messages (not deliberately, but just prefer to write with a laptop than my smart phone, unless it's something really quick), so I don't think I appear too desperate
NVO Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 (edited) Have you found it hard to get meet ups to happen? I pretty much always suggest meeting up within the first 5 messages, and that probably my problem. I just don't want to invest time talking on an app when I could just meet hem at a public place and see if we click. I understand why women are scared/leary about meeting in person, because of creeps and stuff..but I don't want to bull**** around asking dumb interview questions. I also feel like asking for a date very early in the texting stage cripples my chances. Our minds are alike: I also like to see someone in real-life, because only then I can know for sure what kind of person she is. Well, not entirely true but at least I get to see how someone walks, smiles, behaves and interacts with me. I also find it hard to maintain a conversation by text. Texting became more and more boring to me. I feel some kind of pressure like "Oh, I should be funny in this next reply" or something like that. It's exhausting. Besides that, I dislike it when people read their messages and don't reply. It gives me the feeling I said something wrong and I hate that self-doubt. But nog going to change my approach though. If you don't want to meet up with me, that's cool. Rather know it in a short period of time instead of texting a week or so and getting rejected then. Edited May 25, 2016 by NVO
angel.eyes Posted May 25, 2016 Posted May 25, 2016 Since this is in the context of OLD, yes. Typically, guys volunteer their phone numbers rather than ask for mine, and I contact them. Absolutely nothing wrong with your approach--a couple of exchanges, then progress to phone, and ask for a date. That was what I generally experienced. Some guys cut to the chase and asked for a date almost immediately. In those cases, I suggested we chat by phone first, and they messaged me their number. I'm curious. Why do you think you look desperate when you give a woman your number? 1
Superman2024 Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 I've found it best to ask a woman to exchange numbers once you've already asked her out after a few messages on the dating site. At that point you're nearly certain to get it or she'll give it to you freely.
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