How to I keep my wife from having a relationship with another woman?

[Gloria25]

"When you rescue a damsel in distress, all you'll have to show for it is a distressed damsel on your hands."

 

 

- Dr Laura Schlesinger

 

Or once she gets on her feet, she wipes them on her doormat which is you.

 

Funny how the he saved her, and now that he's the broke one she's cutting bait.

 

I know a lady, married with kids and her husband and she support each other. She put off school to be at home and let him finish school. Once he retired from the military and got them stable and the kids were older, she went back to school as they agreed upon. "That's" a marriage....a "team" and the goal is "us/the family"...definitely not what the OP is describing.

[bluefeather]

Ok, you wanna know how to get the woman back? First, GET YOUR BALLS BACK. Be a man and leave her ass. Learn to take care of yourself and maybe she will respect you and want you again.

 

I don't want my son to go through this. He's a teenager, what if he learns to run off if things get tough?

 

Are you F-CKING SERIOUS??? This isn't things getting "tough." This is adultry. You are teaching your son to be ok with being cheated on.

[oldshirt]

Ok, you wanna know how to get the woman back? First, GET YOUR BALLS BACK. Be a man and leave her ass. Learn to take care of yourself and maybe she will respect you and want you again.

 

 

 

Are you F-CKING SERIOUS??? This isn't things getting "tough." This is adultry. You are teaching your son to be ok with being cheated on.

 

 

 

Yes there is a difference between "working through it" and getting away from those who cause you harm.

 

 

When two decent people are committed to working as a team and a functional family unit and they are both acting in good faith to come to a mutually beneficial solution, that is "working through it."

 

 

When one person is mistreating, exploiting, manipulating, cheating or abusing the other, that is a deal breaker and the best course of action for the victim is to walk away and get away from the one mistreating them.

 

 

You actually DO want to teach you son to get away from those who mistreat, abuse or cheat on him.

[lucy_in_disguise]

The only shot you have at getting her back is by putting your foot down hard and kicking her out. She believes (rightly so) that she can walk all ovr you in this relationship, so there is no reason for her not to demand to have her cake and eat it too. You need to make it clear what the boundaries are (which really for evryones sake should not unclude adultery) and show that there are consequences if she cant stick by them. Her friendship with this woman needs to end now or you need to contact a lawyer and start divorce proceedings.

 

Regarding your financial situation, I think you are using your son as an excuse to stay in this relationship. She will not be able to just leave without providng some support, if not joint custody. Your fears re: ending up homeless are not substantiated. Regardless, it is a goos idea to get in touch with a competent lawyer asap to ensure you and your son are protected. Furthermore, you need to get your **** together and fix your truck and find a steady source of income asap. It is a bad idea to be so dependent on a partner in even the healthiest of marriage. In your situation, where your wife has no respect for you and your son is almost grown, there is really no justification. Sell the farm animals and move to town yourself if you need to, but you need to stop depending on her as you have been.

[Mr. Lucky]

Basically, you have agreed to your wife cheating on you and having a PA.

 

^^^^ This!

 

infoseeker, you seem distracted from the main issue by the fact your wife's AP is a woman. Marriage is a commitment to your spouse above others, there's no gender exception...

 

Mr. Lucky