Why do this in the first place?

[reliambit1388]

Hello Love shackers. I hope you don't mind, I just want to vent and get some opinions and/or advice in regards to a past situation with a guy I met online.

 

 

So brief background. I met a guy on tinder. We talked for a week and half before meeting. Btw I am 28 and he is 26. We went on 10 dates within a 2 month period because we both have conflicting work schedules. I work during the morning during the week and he works the night shift during the week. The only days we can see each other is Saturday and Sunday.

 

 

So anyway, first 2 months was great and then I ended up on sleeping with him. Prior to sleeping with him, he told me he wants an exclusive relationship and he's ready for a serious one which I thought we are both on the same page. He initiated the " serious talk". Third month out of nowhere he tells me that he's not ready for a relationship and he just wants to be friends. Now, instead of me chewing him out because I knew he just played me like a fool, he did the bait and switch, I decided to keep calm and tell him that its fine he wants friendship. HOWEVER, I told him I am not looking for friends and I would rather not speak with him any longer.

 

 

Now this is what I don't understand, after telling him such, he wouldn't leave me alone. Kept calling and texing, facing booking and snap chatting me. I told him I knew what he was doing and hes only trying to keep me on the back burner. I told him he can do what he wants, just not with me and to leave me alone. I ended up blocking him on all forms of communication.

 

 

Unfortunately yesterday he contacted me from an unknown number. He was upset that I wouldn't answer his calls or return his text messages. I told him I didn't care and I have no feelings for him. He got soooooooooooooooooo upset with me that this was his response; ( excuse the foul language) "F*ck you. I wish I never met you, God you are a waste of my time". Honestly him saying this made me giggle a bit because I didn't do anything wrong.

 

 

But I do have to ask, why do this in the first place? He got what he wanted which is sex. He's most likely talking to other women so why keep contacting me? and most importantly, why get upset that I don't want to talk to you? Why play these games in the first place. Please give me some insight

[preraph]

You are my new hero! You have this guy pegged exactly. He said what he had to say to get in your pants, and then he took it back and hoped you'd be desperate and invested enough to accept a harem position. You told him no, and he's not used to hearing that and doesn't like losing, so he's doubled down. But you know who he is now, and just need to totally block him and refuse to speak to him. They're always very sorry when they're not getting what they want. Too bad.

[kendahke]

You peeped his game, now he's caught out. I say that you've dodged a bullet.

 

He's the one who made the claim that he wasn't ready for a relationship--sounds like he expected you to chase him.

 

I applaud the tack you took.