Vado Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 (edited) Situation: You're with a girl you just met, first or second date, in a bar or restaurant and than someone comes to the table and says 'I wonder if you guys are in love/ you guys are so cude, you must be boy- and girlfriend' The hidden agenda is to break the vibe between the both of you. A mean romance blocker. You don't want to put a lable on it in such an early stage, because most girls are more interested if your feelings are unclear in the beginning. But now it's almost like you're forced to. How would you respond? Edited May 24, 2016 by Vado 1
Acerboy Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 if you really like the person you wouldn't even be posting this 3
Larryville Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 if you really like the person you wouldn't even be posting this Yes, I was like staring at the computer trying to process why you posted this. You say English is not your first language so I’m taking this into consideration. Help us understand. What's your point? 2
Author Vado Posted May 24, 2016 Author Posted May 24, 2016 Yes, I was like staring at the computer trying to process why you posted this. You say English is not your first language so I’m taking this into consideration. Help us understand. What's your point? This is a bit confusing, I wrote English is not my first language to refer to a previous post. In this post I just like to know if someone has an answer/ experience how to deal with it. 1
preraph Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 I would say "Who ARE you and why are you still standing there. We're on a date." 4
Larryville Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 and than someone comes to the table and says 'I wonder if you guys are in love/ you guys are so cude, you must be boy- and girlfriend' The hidden agenda is to break the vibe between the both of you. A mean romance blocker. You don't want to put a lable on it in such an early stage, because most girls are more interested if your feelings are unclear in the beginning. But now it's almost like you're forced to. How would you respond? Who cares what some stranger said to you? What exactly are you "dealing with"? I would not think the girl you were with cared about some strangers comment. Clearly I'm missing something my bad... 2
d0nnivain Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 There's nothing to respond to. That would have enhanced the mood not harmed it. You smile politely but coldly at the intruder, say thank you, then ignore the person & go on as if they never butted into your date. Some random person is irrelevant. Treat them that way.
katiegrl Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 Situation: You're with a girl you just met, first or second date, in a bar or restaurant and than someone comes to the table and says 'I wonder if you guys are in love/ you guys are so cude, you must be boy- and girlfriend' The hidden agenda is to break the vibe between the both of you. A mean romance blocker. I am not getting the part in bold. Why would someone telling you that you and your date look cute together be a romance/vibe blocker? Take it as a compliment! You look cute together, obviously you like each other and it shows.... This is a good thing! Stop overthinking it and enjoy it! For however long it lasts. I mean of all the things to be bugged by... geez. 1
katiegrl Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 That same thing happened to me when I first met my bf (now ex). I think it was the first date even!! We clicked so well that the bartender asked us how long we had been dating that we looked so comfortable and happy together. We told him we had just met, it was our FIRST date and he was shocked. Anyway we took it as a huge compliment! We were together six years after that..... Next time just say no you just met, but thanks!
WhirlwindGuy Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 My girlfriend and I went out last Tuesday and had at least 3 or 4 people come up to us at separate times and tell us how cute we were together, had some gay guys stop me (while she was in the bathroom, and then again when she came out) and tell me that they could tell that I was "so in love" with her from the way I looked at her, and then told her how lucky she was to have a man that cared about her so much. We just laughed it off, and I thanked them and / or high fived them. I later told her I planted those people in various spots throughout the night to set in motion my master plan to win her over! It was nice, but more so just because it was cute... 1
Buddhist Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 Situation: You're with a girl you just met, first or second date, in a bar or restaurant and than someone comes to the table and says 'I wonder if you guys are in love/ you guys are so cude, you must be boy- and girlfriend' The hidden agenda is to break the vibe between the both of you. A mean romance blocker. There's a hidden agenda to a random making a stupid comment to a couple of strangers? News to me. You don't respond. You just give them a blank stare until they feel uncomfortable and walk away. 1
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