Author unbe Posted June 19, 2016 Author Posted June 19, 2016 What's your relationship background OP? Relationship rythms are not constant, it ebbs and flows. You can't expect 100% consistency from anyone. Im divorced. Was with my X for 7 years, married 4 been D for about a year now. She cheated....
Author unbe Posted June 27, 2016 Author Posted June 27, 2016 Update: Had a great weekend toghtther. Last night we are discussing her friend whos in a relationship with someone for a year. Its clear this guy is strining her along and dating other people, they dont stay over each others houses, he dissaperas for days, there is no progression at all. They are 38 and 36 So we started talking about this. I said I felt they should be living together by this time if they were serious, if not it should end. I said at thisd point in would never waste a year on a R that wasn't going anywhere (I am not saying my R isnt going anywhere...it is) She then says to me that she wouldn't live with anyone unless she was gettign married. I always felt that you should live with someone before making that decision (perhaps a fundamental flaw) Now this was an argument at all..just a discussion. However, my question is this. For someone who has this thought process, assuming things continue to progress in a postive way (which they are now) and at our age of 38 and 35. What is the normal time frame for moving in with someone? At what point would someone consider it 'wasting time' Keep in mind that she lives at home with her father and hates it. She does talk about moving out when she reestablishes herself (just got a new job) and getting an apartment on her own. I am unsure if this is a hint towards me or her just saying that to not freak ME out.
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