Gaeta Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 Ok I don’t know when the gap closes because I have dated 3 women who were not born in the US, all came to this country (mid-teens) If I remember but even after being in US for almost all of their adult life were very culturally grounded, still with the heavy accents. There lays the difference. They had time to adjust to the American ways. Most men I dated arrived in Canada in their 40s. After 5 dates I spoke to my boyfriend about being exclusive. He was taken back, in his culture couples are exclusive at the moment they have sex, no discussion needed. You're not going to find this type of cultural differences in people that moved here in their teens. So if you date someone that has moved here as an adult you're in for an interesting ride. I made us pancake for breakfast the other morning. BF had never seen pancakes in his life. He didn't think it was good at all. I go through these differences regularly. And yes my boyfriend thinks the man is the main bread winner in a relationship and he gets nausea each time I take my wallet out. The main thing is to be aware of each other's cultural differences and work around them together. If OP was born in an Hispanic country. If all of her life she was taught by her parents, grand-parents, and community a good man has to take care of his girlfriend than it's normal she thinks the way she does. 1
Author Terry8889 Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 (edited) A lot of people are missing the point here, some are even accusing me of dating him just bc he is white and that is why I thought he would be a good provider, what the he...?! As I said I always pay for my own stuff, I have even treated him a few times, but he never seem to step in to treat me once in a while. it would be nice of him to do it, it would make me feel special. The only time he gladly took the bill with the intention to pay himself was when I helped him with something he said something like " well you helped me tonight so this is the least I can do". Kinda like just bc I helped him that is the only reason he treated me dinner. Another thing is I did not want to get the new tube. I said it to him and to the bike shop people 3 times it was not necessary but they insisted and he insisted, and bc he "made the decision" that is why I thought he would pay the bill which was about $25. I dont care about the money but it was how the situation was handled that kinda bugged me bc after all the bike was perfectly fine I had added air to it before I never had issues with it until he used his pump and blew out the tire. Edited May 23, 2016 by Terry8889
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