Starting to think of ex again

[Ifeelok]

Hey guys,

Lately I have been thinking / dreaming of my ex on a regular bases.

I haven't seen or heard from her recently, and I like it that way.

However, as of recently I have been having more thoughts about her than I have had these last couple of months.

 

I am almost at the one year mark since we have been apart. I have become a healthier person both physically and emotionally. I understand that been together for almost five years is the main reason why I still think of her at times.

 

I concentrate on staying busy as much as I can but somehow thoughts of her seem to creep in little by little and I hate it. Last Thursday I ran into her cousin at a graduation, and I have noticed as of lately her family, friends have appeared in my life out of the blue.

 

I have blocked her from every social media outlet yet her family still follows me, likes pictures, comment pictures and I honestly just find it a bit odd after everything that has happened.

 

Some advice on how to fight these thoughts would really help a lot.

This website has helped me in many ways, so I want to say thank you to everyone.

[Conviction]

Why did the relationship end?

 

With time, we tend to remember the good about the person and not the bad that ultimately ended it. Focus on that. I recently tried it again with my ex and got a first hand reminder of how toxic she really was, but from time to time I would miss her because of the good memories we shared.

[fixing]

First of all, the more you try to 'fight' any thoughts, the more and more they will continue to plague you.

 

When you get thoughts about your ex, try to accept that you have thought about her but casually bring yourself back to a few deep breathes.

 

I would recommend anybody to look into 'mindfulness' as it really really helps you to anchor yourself in the present moment.

 

You are thinking about her more and more because you bumped into a family member at that graduation. So, its natural you are getting thoughts about your ex simply by association.

 

I would recommend you block ALL the family members from your social media accounts because that is an open door to a past life. It is a small little window that shouldn't be open.

[Satu]

From my journals:

 

 

If you had a broken finger, would you try to heal it by not thinking about it?

 

 

Freud and Jung concluded that most mental and emotional pain comes from:

 

Resistance

 

Conflict

 

and

 

Failure to adapt.

 

All you will achieve by trying not to think about this is the creation of terrific tension in your psyche.

 

The thoughts come, but you try not to think about them = resistance.

 

You try not to think about the thoughts but you do = conflict.

 

Conflict + Resistance = Mental and emotional pain.

 

 

Let the thoughts come and go just like any other thoughts.

 

Let them come, let them go.

 

If you don't they will slam in hard, at inconvenient times.

 

Let them come, let them go.

 

Gradually the thoughts are drained of energy, and become something of little significance.

 

Then, having completed your process, you can properly and effectively adapt.

 

 

You get what you resist.

 

What you resist persists.

 

 

 

Take care.

[Ifeelok]

Why did the relationship end

 

With time, we tend to remember the good about the person and not the bad that ultimately ended it. Focus on that. I recently tried it again with my ex and got a first hand reminder of how toxic she really was, but from time to time I would miss her because of the good memories we shared.

 

the relationship ended wit a "I need time to find myself". 1 month later shes in a relationship with her co worker, so yeah she basically left me for some one else.

[Ifeelok]

First of all, the more you try to 'fight' any thoughts, the more and more they will continue to plague you.

 

When you get thoughts about your ex, try to accept that you have thought about her but casually bring yourself back to a few deep breathes.

 

I would recommend anybody to look into 'mindfulness' as it really really helps you to anchor yourself in the present moment.

 

You are thinking about her more and more because you bumped into a family member at that graduation. So, its natural you are getting thoughts about your ex simply by association.

 

I would recommend you block ALL the family members from your social media accounts because that is an open door to a past life. It is a small little window that shouldn't be open.

 

 

 

I dont follow any of her family or friends on social media, but yet the follow me and act like nothing ever happened. but you are right I should block them. Just like I blocked her. I will do exactly what you have requested, thank you.