Buddhist Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 (edited) What I want to know is what is the right thing to do? Every scenario I come up with ends in my friendship being ruined if I suggest he be more oppened he could tell her he asked me and she might get mad it's like I'm screwed no matter what. The right thing to do is hand responsibility for all of that back to him. You aren't responsible for telling his wife, you aren't responsible for making his fantasy come true either. End of story. What happens next, happens next. But take your attention off the relationship between him and her because its none of your business. Edited May 26, 2016 by Buddhist 1
whichwayisup Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 Maybe but she said something that really got me upset she said she obviously was not into it so naturally I was the best choice since she trusts me the underlying message is she assumes I'd be okay with it. Worst part I said yes have you ever agreed to do something for a friend and then instantly regretted it? I can't believe I let her pressure me like this. You can back out at anytime. You're not obligated to go through with this. Speak your mind and be honest with her, tell her that it actually makes you uncomfortable and you'd rather not do this with her husband. If she or he gets mad, so be it. They both have compromised the friendship and put you in an awkward position.
whichwayisup Posted May 26, 2016 Posted May 26, 2016 Your right I can say no but I think I'll give it a shot. Say no. It's going to change your friendship and if you value her in your life, you won't go through with it, you'll tell them you changed your mind. 1
Miss Clavel Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 So I'm a dominatrix and I used to be good at keeping this part of my life a secret but that didn't stick. I will be quick one of my friend's her husband asked me to dominate him and full fill a fantasy of his now there's no sex or anything and he's willing to pay me a lot of money. The only problem is I'm trying to be a better person and there was a time when I'd just accept his offer because well my morals are flexible but again I'm trying to be a better person. I feel like I'm in a difficult position because if I say no does that mean I have to tell my friend? That could put me in a shoot the messanger type situation and I don't want that on the other hand if I don't tell her and he goes and finds some stranger and she finds out I know I could get dragged into it. What I want to know is what is the right thing to do? Every scenario I come up with ends in my friendship being ruined if I suggest he be more oppened he could tell her he asked me and she might get mad it's like I'm screwed no matter what.hell, i'd hit the guy for free. but i digress. you had a business. you've closed up shop. a "client' is seeking a service you used to offer in a hire for pay scenario. your "client" doesn't need your judgement, he doesn't need anything from you other then a "referal". if you have someone you can recommend, do so. otherwise just say, "i'm out of the trade and i don't know anyone else working that line right now,good luck".
Popsicle Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 (edited) I'd tell him no and not tell your friend. I'd also tell him to never ask you that again, or you will tell your friend. Guaranteed, he'll never ask again. Edit: Just read that the friend already knows. Yeah, I think it's probably time to fade out of their lives on your own. They are both too weird and are trying to involve you in their marital problems/drama. Edited May 27, 2016 by Popsicle
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