OCCDAVE Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 (edited) Well seems due to work my dating life has been on hold for let's say 8 months or so.I messaged a girl on dating site we exchanged few messages then phone numbers .We both are pretty much during the week so I waited one Friday night to call and got the sorry out with friends I'll call you back . She did infact call but seems we just kept missing out calls .I tried one more time got the hey sorry out at the movies I'll call you back babe .That point I figured this wasn't going anywhere so not gonna sweat her and case closed.So I'd say few days past no contact which confirmed she wasn't into me so move on .Well Saturday I get a text saying hey Dave so sorry just been hectic week hopefully we can still catch up . That point tbh I figured what the heck and called her up.We chatted a bit and I got straight to the point about grabbing a bite Sunday which she agreed.Well Sunday comes we met and outing seemed I guess ok tbh had few to many silent moments probably cause I'm shy not to mention rusty.I said you know my friend invited me to his b day Friday you should stop by.She mentioned going out to a concert Saturday so she was like well I would but will be getting ready for the concert . Tbh that point I could see I was being flaked so I called her out saying it's cool most ppl need a whole day get ready for an outing following day ...She said no that just my friends will be here so I said well bring them and she said ok :)We hugged went our way I text her later was nice meeting her and stuff she did likewise Sorry I rambled just been out the dating game so it's pretty hard for me to read this one Edited May 24, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 (edited) Forgot to mention I mentioned going to gun range and she was like def when do you wanna go .Before we parted ways she was like make sure you text me the info on the party :)I dunno if I should have waited after date was over to make plans instead of planning another outing during the end of the first which I felt made me come off as clingy Edited May 23, 2016 by OCCDAVE
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 My friend thinks I should wait till Thursday about the outing Friday or should I call say Tuesday/Wednesday then confirm on Friday ?
Conviction Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 You're analyzing it too much dude. Go with the flow and just see how it plays out. No need to try and "time" it. You asked her to the party, cool, see if she shows up. I wouldn't say she's flaking, otherwise she would have ghosted you already. As long as she keeps communication, you're good. 2
Versacehottie Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 You're analyzing it too much dude. Go with the flow and just see how it plays out. No need to try and "time" it. You asked her to the party, cool, see if she shows up. I wouldn't say she's flaking, otherwise she would have ghosted you already. As long as she keeps communication, you're good. Yeah, OP, you are too jumpy and sensitive. Why are you trying to figure out how much she likes you or if she does at all, instead of just giving her a chance to do that? And you of her, btw. She's not going to top prioritize you, which is not the same as a diss/blow off. As for the concert, idk, maybe she didn't want to get into the swing of a party when she would have to leave and cut it short or very short. And you obviously don't understand the full nature of girls getting ready!!! That can be an all encompassing thing and require different outfits for a party (bbq?) vs a concert--who knows! Sounds like a good reason is what I'm saying. Hang in there and keep trying to date her. Good luck
angel.eyes Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 Telling her to show up with all her friends to your friend's party is a terrible second date idea. Sorry. Try to keep early dates to activities where you interact one-on-one. Focus on getting to know each other. You can't un-invite her and all her friends now. So, see if she's open to getting together with you for a bite or something before the hordes converge on your friend's place. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 You're analyzing it too much dude. Go with the flow and just see how it plays out. No need to try and "time" it. You asked her to the party, cool, see if she shows up. I wouldn't say she's flaking, otherwise she would have ghosted you already. As long as she keeps communication, you're good.Well we are both pretty busy during the week so not sure how much contact I'll have before Friday .Ill admit seems even though I'm getting older I still tend to over think things esp the dating game lol.Maybe should her a text Friday ?Tbh I should have kept the original plan to go to range at least just be us and not a group outing
angel.eyes Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 There are better date ideas out there than house parties and gun ranges! What did you learn about her on the first date? What does she like to do? What are some of her hobbies? Any that also interest you? Use those for ideas in planning early dates. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 There are better date ideas out there than house parties and gun ranges! What did you learn about her on the first date? What does she like to do? What are some of her hobbies? Any that also interest you? Use those for ideas in planning early dates.Well I'll be honest party wasn't one of my best ideas .She enjoys a lot of outdoor stuff as well as sports .Was looking into a local baseball game but my teams not in town this weekend .Gun range tbh been there 100 times but when I mentioned it her face seemed to light up so that's why I suggested it
Jabron1 Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 There are better date ideas out there than house parties and gun ranges! What did you learn about her on the first date? What does she like to do? What are some of her hobbies? Any that also interest you? Use those for ideas in planning early dates. Gun range is a good action date. House party is a bit dodgy though this early on. Don't worry about what she likes to do. Do what you want to do. You are the one planning and paying for stuff, and she is joining in. Well seems due to work my dating life has been on hold for let's say 8 months or so.I messaged a girl on dating site we exchanged few messages then phone numbers .We both are pretty much during the week so I waited one Friday night to call and got the sorry out with friends I'll call you back .She did infact call but seems we just kept missing out calls .I tried one more time got the hey sorry out at the movies I'll call you back babe .That point I figured this wasn't going anywhere so not gonna sweat her and case closed.So I'd say few days past no contact which confirmed she wasn't into me so move on .Well Saturday I get a text saying hey Dave so sorry just been hectic week hopefully we can still catch up .That point tbh I figured what the heck and called her up.We chatted a bit and I got straight to the point about grabbing a bite Sunday which she agreed.Well Sunday comes we met and outing seemed I guess ok tbh had few to many silent moments probably cause I'm shy not to mention rusty.I said you know my friend invited me to his b day Friday you should stop by.She mentioned going out to a concert Saturday so she was like well I would but will be getting ready for the concert .Tbh that point I could see I was being flaked so I called her out saying it's cool most ppl need a whole day get ready for an outing following day ...She said no that just my friends will be here so I said well bring them and she said ok :)We hugged went our way I text her later was nice meeting her and stuff she did likewise Sorry I rambled just been out the dating game so it's pretty hard for me to read this one You are a low priority option for her right now. So, don't get too excited. Don't make dates on Sundays. Worst day going. It's the day of rest, and should be used as such IMO You need to stop poncing around, and make something more concrete happen. It's on you. There's far too much 'I called and then she called. We hung out on Sunday. I said let's hang out at a party, etc'. You are already losing frame - big time. She will start to see this thing (and you) as wishy-washy. Make a date with her for a weeknight. Most girls don't have much going on then, and she should prioritise you (if her interest is where it should be). Your aim should not be for sex - but to make this man/woman with some fun and kissing. That should be your next move. It's daft to invite a girl to a house party before you've kissed her. You are making life needlessly hard for yourself.
AMJ Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 I had a great Sunday date last week! Sundays and any other day is a fine date day. I think you are making the mistake that lots of guys make which is to not make solid plans in advance. When you call her today, make plans with her for Wednesday or Thursday.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 My bad jab guess I'm still a dating noob lol.Only reason I suggested Sunday was cause She has plans Saturday and Friday has family coming in .Guess maybe I could do something following week but like you said I'm already off to a bad start .Gun range seems good wasn't gonna break the bank I got the guns/ammo plus a range pass lol
Jabron1 Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 My bad jab guess I'm still a dating noob lol.Only reason I suggested Sunday was cause She has plans Saturday and Friday has family coming in .Guess maybe I could do something following week but like you said I'm already off to a bad start .Gun range seems good wasn't gonna break the bank I got the guns/ammo plus a range pass lol Any reason that you haven't thought of trying a weeknight? She seems very busy at weekends. The idea is that you should be too Far too busy to accommodate some new girl that is likely to flake. Weekends are peak time, mate. Keep in mind that you aren't a priority to her yet - and she definitely isn't a high interest girl either. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 24, 2016 Author Posted May 24, 2016 Guess my week is just as busy so leaves me with just weekends unless we grab a early breakfast before I hit up work .But the next out if there is even one has to be activity outing not another food outing .Tbh I hadn't contacted her since the text guess I felt blah .Then again she must be somewhat interested she contacted me I was already chalking it up to closed subject.She normally had weekends free just this weekend coming up she's booked
angel.eyes Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 It's Memorial Day weekend and the unofficial start of summer. Almost everyone has plans. I'm not surprised she was busy. Stick with weekends. I take guys more seriously when they ask for weekend dates. Besides, it works best with both your work schedules. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 24, 2016 Author Posted May 24, 2016 My buddy said grow a pair and just call her now lol should I keep the call simple or mention another outing
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 25, 2016 Author Posted May 25, 2016 Well finally called and no answer so now balls in her court but at this point I don't think I'll get a call back
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 26, 2016 Author Posted May 26, 2016 Well so far no call then again this same person who went a week between contacts .Eh tbh I'm bit upset cause I had already crossed off my list but she came back starting up and saying she's glad she heard from me .Maybe she just wanted free meal lol sorry I'm rambling just bummed out
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 30, 2016 Author Posted May 30, 2016 Ok so Tuesday I called no answer .Well just called awhile ago same thing no answer sigh .Tbh bit upset but whatever dust myself off keep going forward
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 30, 2016 Author Posted May 30, 2016 Well she finally text me back with the generic hey sorry been busy anyway sorry not not interested I hope you find someone If that wasn't bad enough she decided to add a laughing emoji smh I should have not even given her time of day after the first time she went Mia.I guess she wanted a free meal so jokes on me sigh
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