x5m Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 I met this girl over 6 months ago, we hit it off right from the start. We can literally talk for hours and hours, one of the sweetest and most genuine girls I have ever met. We are seriously the same people.. she calls me her Doppelganger lol. We hang out every single day she is not working, go out to drink, eat, watch movies, etc. She is definitely into me by the way she talks and flirts.. I am into her as well. Thing is.. she is recently engaged. She talks about her Fiance quite a bit and complains that he plays video games too often, doesn't take her out, etc. I really don't want to get in between that since she obviously chose to spend the rest of her life with him for a reason. It just feels wrong. I really like this girl, but.. should I just keep her as a friend? I really enjoy spending time with her and don't want it to end.
Teknoe Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 I met this girl over 6 months ago, we hit it off right from the start. We can literally talk for hours and hours, one of the sweetest and most genuine girls I have ever met. We are seriously the same people.. she calls me her Doppelganger lol. We hang out every single day she is not working, go out to drink, eat, watch movies, etc. She is definitely into me by the way she talks and flirts.. I am into her as well. Thing is.. she is recently engaged. She talks about her Fiance quite a bit and complains that he plays video games too often, doesn't take her out, etc. I really don't want to get in between that since she obviously chose to spend the rest of her life with him for a reason. It just feels wrong. I really like this girl, but.. should I just keep her as a friend? I really enjoy spending time with her and don't want it to end. Definitely a no go in terms of pursuing her. Keep her as a friend, but for the time being, loosen up on the contact level. You seem way too invested in someone who should now be considered off limits, romantically.
Author x5m Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 Definitely a no go in terms of pursuing her. Keep her as a friend, but for the time being, loosen up on the contact level. You seem way too invested in someone who should now be considered off limits, romantically. I mean can you not have a good friend that is engaged?
Zippy2000 Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 She will ever ONLY be your friend. I suggest you READ what you posted. She is recently engaged. Im sure she is happy with her partner. You need to leave her alone. She is using you as an "emotional cushion" since she trusts you as a friend. Thats what women do. They download their worries onto someone as they like to take about things and you are being there for her instead of her partner. She is a FRIEND and nothing more. Dont get involved or you will lose her as a friend. 1
Teknoe Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 I mean can you not have a good friend that is engaged? I never said or even implied that you can't have a friend that is engaged. But when you got the hots for her, you need to protect yourself and her by keeping a distance... especially for the time being. Read your post. You're way too invested. Cool off for a bit. 1
basil67 Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 I mean can you not have a good friend that is engaged? Agree with Teknoe. You can't have a good friend who's engaged who is also into you.
Erik30 Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 You are her "male girlfriend," there is nothing to persue. She talks to you about her fiance and her relationship because she considers you a close friend. She complains about the guy, but she's engaged, and at the end of the day she goes back home to him. You do seem to hang out with her a lot, but he has sex with her after you gave her all that attention. Think about that. She's getting married, she'll bring you along when she's going to pick her wedding dress... You can keep her as a friend, but don't wait for her and hope she'll dump him for you some day.
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