patooks Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Hi all. One of my best mates has been seeing a girl for about a month now. Nothing serious. They both hit it off well, there was a physical attraction between them, but now she gave him the " I think we should start off as friends for the time being and see what happens ". She has said to him she is the 1 with the problem, and is unsure of what she wants. She said she isn't dating anyone else, and needs time to think it over. He is concerned with has he been pulled in to the dreaded " friend zone " ?. She seemed so keen on him originally , but now if he brings up how he feels about her, she changes the subject. If he asks about her young kids, which are the center of her world, she texts all day about them, is he been used in a way or by the sounds of it is she legitimately wanting to get to know him better ? He is confused, and doesn't know whether to hang around and take it at her pace , or start looking for someone who wants something now. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
Gaeta Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 She will waste his time. She will be using him as a time-filler till the right guy comes by. There are several serious level-headed women out there looking for men relationship oriented. He doesn't need to waste his time with her. Tell him to move on and find a woman ready to find her man.
Author patooks Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 Thanks. He is very confused about her, she seems to be giving him mixed messages. 1 moment inviting him to come over to her place, to meet her dad and even her kids, the next cancelling it to go to a boxing fight. He really thought she was been an honest woman, and at 35, I would of hoped she was as well for his sake. Professional lady as well.
Gaeta Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 Thanks. He is very confused about her, she seems to be giving him mixed messages. 1 moment inviting him to come over to her place, to meet her dad and even her kids, the next cancelling it to go to a boxing fight. He really thought she was been an honest woman, and at 35, I would of hoped she was as well for his sake. Professional lady as well. He must be new to dating? Anyone with a little bit of dating experience would see through her game right away. As you'll read often on here: Someone interested acts interested. People sending mixed signals are only half interested and using you till someone else comes along. The level of education, the profession, the financial situation of a person is in no way related to their level of integrity. Your friend needs to keep searching. It will take time, he'll kiss a lot of frogs but he'll find.
Gaeta Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 I am a woman and I will tell you, when a woman tells a man she wants to be friends for now it's because she has another man in mind and is hoping to develop something with. She is not sure she can get that other man so she puts your friend on the back burner by giving him little crumbs to keep him interested. Your friend deserves better than this.
Author patooks Posted May 23, 2016 Author Posted May 23, 2016 I thought as much. Figured she had him on the back burner. Thanks for your help.
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