Teknoe Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Type: dinner or more activity-based... does it matter what the second date is (the first date was dinner) if the girl seems into you? Or am I overthinking and whatever you guys do, it'll be fine because it's the company the girl enjoys, not whether you're sitting down over a meal or doing something more active. Was thinking of hiking and maybe a picnic for a second date, but should I just do dinner again? 1
gimlynick Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Some girls like to have a choice. Others like surprises. Some girls like dinners, movies. Others like hiking, surfing. You'd know after a first date what she really likes. Have fun 1
d0nnivain Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 It matters in the sense that it should be something she wants to do I don't like to hike & wouldn't be thrilled if a guy organized a hiking date. Some people are also weird about picnics. So it doesn't matter that much but it could matter. Taking a vegetarian to a beefsteak wouldn't work. Expecting an atheist to attend your Church supper would also be a bad idea. asking a recovered alcoholic to meet you for a drink is risky. Get my drift? 1
Art_Critic Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 It does matter, a hike for a second date.. hmmm.. if she is a big hiker then yes but if she isn't then no.... I went on a hiking date with my wife but about 6 dates in.. I'd do dinner again unless she wants the hike.. you could just ask her instead and then you'd know.. 1
Author Teknoe Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 It does matter, a hike for a second date.. hmmm.. if she is a big hiker then yes but if she isn't then no.... I went on a hiking date with my wife but about 6 dates in.. I'd do dinner again unless she wants the hike.. you could just ask her instead and then you'd know.. She said she's fine with either dinner or hike... but we're doing dinner. It's nice when the girl likes you and makes it easy for you Refreshing after so many so-so first dates too, heh. 4
Dis Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 She said she's fine with either dinner or hike... but we're doing dinner. It's nice when the girl likes you and makes it easy for you Refreshing after so many so-so first dates too, heh. I think dinner is the best way to go here. What I got from your post is you need to have alittle more confidence in your choices and most of all in yourself. If a girl likes you (and shes not a b****) she really wont be too picky about the date. Of course you still want to put thought into it so she has a good time but relax alittle. Go with the flow and have fun on the date! She obvisouly likes you so have fun with her and see where is goes! Best of luck to you! 1
Shanex Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 I've done the two dinners in a row dates, it worked. I can adapt or leave the choice for a date to a woman. The point is to make her feel comfortable because you barely know each other yet. 1
Author Teknoe Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 Thanks everyone. And yes, I would agree with the assessment that I need a little more self-confidence. I've been working out and working on my body/weight... made some decent strides there but still got a ways to go. It's definitely helped my confidence though, as I'm actively pursuing a positive goal. However, in terms of the dating game, I honestly haven't had much success there and see myself only as a decent looking guy at best, and that's when I wear the right clothes and wake up "on the right side of bed" lol. A lot of guys have "higher, better" qualifications than me such as making 6 figures, already owning their own place, etc. that I feel I'm playing with a handicap and it's part of the reason why I get overlooked so much from most single girls. So it's nice to finally meet someone that's sweet and more than willing to give me a shot. She seems quite interested in me and I'm encouraged since I know there are so many choices out there... of everyone available she's picking me thus far. So I'll try to relax and just stay in the moment and have fun and take it one date at a time. If she continues to dig me, then I'm sure she'll make it relatively easy for me in terms of all I got to do is walk through the doors she opens (figuratively speaking, because I do hold the doors open for her, LOL) 2
Dis Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Thanks everyone. And yes, I would agree with the assessment that I need a little more self-confidence. I've been working out and working on my body/weight... made some decent strides there but still got a ways to go. It's definitely helped my confidence though, as I'm actively pursuing a positive goal. However, in terms of the dating game, I honestly haven't had much success there and see myself only as a decent looking guy at best, and that's when I wear the right clothes and wake up "on the right side of bed" lol. A lot of guys have "higher, better" qualifications than me such as making 6 figures, already owning their own place, etc. that I feel I'm playing with a handicap and it's part of the reason why I get overlooked so much from most single girls. So it's nice to finally meet someone that's sweet and more than willing to give me a shot. She seems quite interested in me and I'm encouraged since I know there are so many choices out there... of everyone available she's picking me thus far. So I'll try to relax and just stay in the moment and have fun and take it one date at a time. If she continues to dig me, then I'm sure she'll make it relatively easy for me in terms of all I got to do is walk through the doors she opens (figuratively speaking, because I do hold the doors open for her, LOL) All of what you just described...looks...money..owning your own place. These things only go so far. A really hot guy can make 6 figures and own his own house but if he's a douche, a smart woman isnt going to stick around for that. As long as your not dating women out of your league you'll find one that likes you for who you are...average looks and all. Dont forget....just because she's a woman doesnt mean she holds all the cards. I think guys tend to forget this. She might be thinking the same things you are...does he like me??? Am I attractive enough for him??? etc etc ***Dont put her on a pedestal*** Shes a woman...shes not a god. Just have fun, have confidence and have a good time!
Author Teknoe Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 All of what you just described...looks...money..owning your own place. These things only go so far. A really hot guy can make 6 figures and own his own house but if he's a douche, a smart woman isnt going to stick around for that. As long as your not dating women out of your league you'll find one that likes you for who you are...average looks and all. Dont forget....just because she's a woman doesnt mean she holds all the cards. I think guys tend to forget this. She might be thinking the same things you are...does he like me??? Am I attractive enough for him??? etc etc ***Dont put her on a pedestal*** Shes a woman...shes not a god. Just have fun, have confidence and have a good time! Good points. Yeah, I'm still feeling her out myself as well. I definitely like what I see so far but it's obviously only been one date and there's so much yet that I don't know about her. Thanks for the reminder. Duly noted!
Dis Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 Good points. Yeah, I'm still feeling her out myself as well. I definitely like what I see so far but it's obviously only been one date and there's so much yet that I don't know about her. Thanks for the reminder. Duly noted! Let us know how it goes!
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