AriaMaria Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 (edited) For the past few months I've been seeing this guy. It's been a long distance relationship and it's been fine I guess, but being long distance isn't for me, I'm more the kind of person who likes to know that if I ever need my guy he'll be there, or at least be able to get there soon! I want the kind of guy who can say "let's go for food" and we can go that same day! But the guy is so nice to me, he's really sweet and attentive. Recently though we've been having trust issues, he's been lying to be about small stupid stuff and he's just not the guy I fell for and I ended things with him. I'm not sure if it was the right decision though... At the same guy there's this guy I work with. Me and him just click, you know? We get on really well and we agree on pretty much everything! Everyone says I'm just infatuated though. We've only known each other for about 2 months and we work side-by-side on everything at work (as is the nature of my job), and this week I've been off work sick and he's been around every day to take care of me and he's even taking me away next weekend for a few days! The way he makes me feel is a way I've never felt about anyone and I really think he could be the one. The only thing that's holding me back is the fact that it's still so new and we've not really argued about anything and all we do is have fun, and we're working so closely that if it goes wrong it'd be really bad. We're not a "thing" yet but I think I'd like to be. I just don't know if it's the right thing to do... Edited May 22, 2016 by AriaMaria
CarrieT Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Get rid of the long distance guy unless you have every intention of trying to be together In Real Life *very soon*. It isn't fair to either of you... Who knows about the new guy, but at least you will be free to pursue Real Life relationships and not someone you can't see and community with face-to-face.
smudge21 Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 First guy is long gone and second guy is someone you just connect with on so many levels. I fail to see the dilemma here. Having doubts about getting serious is standard, as is having so much fun in those early days (before things settle down). Just go with it (although that whole dating at work thing is always a concern). I'd just suck it and see, so to speak. You're free and single (despite doubts over LDR guy) so just take each day as it comes. Have fun. Live your life. You only get one. 1
Author AriaMaria Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 But should I be dating someone I work so closely with? Is it just infatuation?
Cherryz Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Somehow ldr is a waste of time. Only not if its a couple that had to split for a little while and will be together back very soon. But just start a relationship with someone far away you just met true websites , and that you only see few times a week or month you cant have opportunity to get to know and build trust and experience the real each-other. Whatever it is, i think you shouldn't go from guy to guy rigth after break ups. But take time to heal and to get over your ex. Once you over him, you have less chance to be confuse that you like 2 3 4 guys at same time. So just be single now. And go do fun with friends, travel, and so on.
Author AriaMaria Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 The thing is, the guy I like broke up with his gf for me and he seems ready to be in a relationship already. He's already inviting me away for weekends
Cherryz Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 But should I be dating someone I work so closely with? Is it just infatuation? No! Never date at work. Once its over you will regret it and will have to deal with it not only at home but also at work. You can also lose your job because you are messing at work, most jobs dont allow that kind of stuff. And also being also at work with a ex, stands in your way to have a healthy healing. Stop dating focus on other things that matter and that are fun.
mrldii Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 There's an old adage that was created just for this situation, OP: "A bird in the bush is worth two on-hand" (or sumpin'-sumpin' like that). Go for it...a local relationship that doesn't work out (including getting involved with a co-worker) is worth so much more than a filled-with-drama-and-trauma long distance disaster. Best of luck to you, OP...
Cherryz Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 The thing is, the guy I like broke up with his gf for me and he seems ready to be in a relationship already. He's already inviting me away for weekends Already? Hm, sounds like you ddnt tell us the whole story and like its gonna be one hot weekends away:confused::D:bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: LOL! And i dont know how old you are, But sound like you are all over the place and dating here, breakup there. And without taking time to know anyone and to build friendship. This way you will be used for s3x or what ever a guy wants easily. Because you are up and into what ever. You not giving any reservations. Or take time. He also broke up already? To be with you? Hm, people need to learn and respect others heart before getting with people in relationships. You cant just run around breaking up and get with people like its a joke or game. Also for your own self esteem its not healthy. Doesnt matter how old you are. Its just not rigth.
hew Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 It sounds like confusion mostly. I think that if the long distance guy wasn't around you would feel much better about going for the guy you work with. It could very well be infatuation but that often leads to more once you get to know someone. And if it doesn't work out, well you took a chance to see what would happen. Getting involved with someone you work with can be kind of scary. I have personally done it before and it ended very sour. But I also work with people who are in relationships with other people in our department store and it works great with no problems at work. Everyone and their relationships are different. I say enjoy your time with your coworker friend and see what happens Sometimes those situations lead to very awesome new friends if not lovers.
Author AriaMaria Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 Would it be wrong to ask the LDR guy to be friends? I mean, I really like him and everything, just not in the same way I like the guy I work with...
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