mokona97 Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 I was dumped about 4 weeks ago by my 23 year old ex boyfriend. Our relationship was good, we never really fought... it was mostly me telling him things that he did that would bothered me. He is one of those people who have a lot of friends, that was mostly my problem. I felt most of the time that he was putting them ahead of me but he assured me he wasn't. Near the time of our breakup he was starting to get a little more distant, only hanging out and having sleepovers on the weekends. He was also very stressed because he would always leave his school work until the last minute. The week before we broke up I had not seen him at all, he asked to see me on Sunday and Monday but i was too busy. So we planned to hangout during the week after the class we have together, but when that day came he slept through the class and with me being annoyed and hurt I messaged him asking what happen. After still thinking we were going to hang he said hes not feeling well and went back to sleep. It ended with me asking if everything is okay and him answering that he thinks we should break up. It felt very out of the blue, there wasn't much sign of him wanting to break up the only thing was feeling more distant. He was the one who kept on making plans and continuing to have sex with me and acting like nothing was wrong. after all of this we have been doing NC , the only thing he has done is been liking photos on my social media accounts and sending me a snapchat. Besides that he hasn't tried to contact me..I feel very hurt and heartbroken about it all, I still think about him and wish he would come back... I just don't fully understand what happen 1
Satu Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Sorry that you're hurting. This is what happened: He did some thinking about his life, how he feels about it, and how he wants it to be in the future. He was distant because he was thinking. The thinking culminated in him deciding that he didn't want to continue the relationship. He didn't decide that to hurt you, and he didn't decide that because 'you're not good enough.' It just felt right to him to end it. I doubt that he could explain it to you in words. It was a 'gut feeling' thing. A gut feeling decision. Lick your wounds, and cry your tears. Its right that you should do that. You will both eventually move on to new relationships, and have interesting lives. From time to time, you will think fondly of the time you had together, even though you've moved on. You'll be OK. Take care. 3
basil67 Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 Sorry you broke up Mokona. However, it wasn't out of the blue: You'd been telling him that he wasn't meeting your needs and being annoyed hurt. He was tired of you being unhappy, realised that he couldn't meet your needs and ended things. 2
Author mokona97 Posted May 22, 2016 Author Posted May 22, 2016 (edited) Sorry you broke up Mokona. However, it wasn't out of the blue: You'd been telling him that he wasn't meeting your needs and being annoyed hurt. He was tired of you being unhappy, realised that he couldn't meet your needs and ended things. it only felt out of the blue because he never even tried to communicate to me when he felt there was a problem. He just pretended like everything was fine, brought me out to dates etc. I almost feel like he did it because he wanted his freedom and to be able to hang out with all his friends. Seeing his snap chats he seems to have moved on while i'm sitting here still upset.. Edited May 22, 2016 by mokona97
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