HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 I went out with a guy I know who i don't really talk to all that much and who I don't feel like I know that well. I find him attractive, I mean he's good looking. But he seemed to be in a hurry to get physical and said something like how he like can't help it "especially with someone I'm so attracted to." It just seemed like a bit much for a first date, maybe i'm a prude... I don't know. Should I just be flattered and brush it off? 1
alphamale Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 if he genuinely liked you he would wait until the relationship developed. 1
TunaCat Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 I'm not a prude either, but this would not be okay with me. Definite red flag. There would be no second date, if I were you. 2
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 I did make out with him and now I feel kinda foolish! i almost bought it! 2
smackie9 Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 He's bsing ya. You can't be that naive. He wants is to get in yer pants. Tip: go by their actions not by what they say to you. This guy is a joke. Ditch him. 3
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 He's bsing ya. You can't be that naive. He wants is to get in yer pants. Tip: go by their actions not by what they say to you. This guy is a joke. Ditch him. Sadly I kinda was hoping he was being sincere :-/ lol but i know you're right 2
Satu Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Throw him back in the pond and enjoy a little chuckle as you do. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 (edited) Throw him back in the pond and enjoy a little chuckle as you do. will do...if i can get past my embarrassment over my gullibility and desperation. now I am also second-guessing my looks and attractiveness. Edited May 21, 2016 by HansonGirl 1
smackie9 Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Being an attractive person doesn't always grant you a guy that wants a commitment. There are guys who only want to get laid whether you are attractive or not. 2
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 (edited) Being an attractive person doesn't always grant you a guy that wants a commitment. There are guys who only want to get laid whether you are attractive or not. well if i'm not attractive, i guess that's the only kind of guy i am going to get. I guess my main thing was i was very flattered when he said he was SO attracted to me... like i don't even care if he wants anything, I was very flattered and that was good enough for me. I am fine with not seeing this particular guy again. But if he wasn't really attracted to me, man that just sucks. that was the only redeeming thing about the whole night Edited May 21, 2016 by HansonGirl 1
Satu Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 well if i'm not attractive, i guess that's the only kind of guy i am going to get. I guess my main thing was i was very flattered when he said he was SO attracted to me... like i don't even care if he wants anything, I was very flattered and that was good enough for me. I am fine with not seeing this particular guy again. But if he wasn't really attracted to me, man that just sucks. that was the only redeeming thing about the whole night Enjoy the flattery. Its guaranteed non-toxic, doesn't stain, and contains zero calories. Poor guy. Imagine what he felt like when he got home... Enough of the self-doubt, you're beautiful.
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Enjoy the flattery. Its guaranteed non-toxic, doesn't stain, and contains zero calories. Poor guy. Imagine what he felt like when he got home... Enough of the self-doubt, you're beautiful. Thank you. I guess I'll just say "next." but why do you say "poor guy"?! what?? thanks everyone 1
Satu Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Thank you. I guess I'll just say "next." but *why do you say "poor guy"?! what?? thanks everyone *"Because 1
smackie9 Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 He did find you attractive or he wouldn't have wasted his time trying to get with you. You are going to run into crap along the way to finding a great guy. It's just part of dating.....you have to kick a few tires before you find the right one. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 *"Because haha well that's true. he will especially disappointed when i don't give him another chance. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 He did find you attractive or he wouldn't have wasted his time trying to get with you. You are going to run into crap along the way to finding a great guy. It's just part of dating.....you have to kick a few tires before you find the right one. well that makes me feel better. thanks smackie and everyone else. I have to say i feel like Blanche Deveareux right now... i was so concerned he didn't find me attractive. Well sometimes we need a little ego boost every now and then. (first time I typed that, i wrote "embarrassing" instead of "attractive" -- maybe that's some weird freudian slip) 1
tayriley Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 what do you mean by 'get physical'?? small touches, arm around you, kissing, sex?? if he is pushing for sex like i suspect, then yes, it is absolutely a line. he is trying to flatter you into sleeping with him. if he is just giving you flirty touches here and there, like hand around your waist as you walk, or touching your hands, or going in for a kiss...then that is normal first date behavior. more importantly, it sounds like you aren't very into him. if i'm with someone i'm into, i am happy for him to push for sex cause i want it too. if i'm not, i will feel like he is a predator preying on me. it sounds to me like you are the latter.
Lois_Griffin Posted May 22, 2016 Posted May 22, 2016 I went out with a guy I know who i don't really talk to all that much and who I don't feel like I know that well. I find him attractive, I mean he's good looking. But he seemed to be in a hurry to get physical and said something like how he like can't help it "especially with someone I'm so attracted to." It just seemed like a bit much for a first date, maybe i'm a prude... I don't know. Should I just be flattered and brush it off? Bwahahahaa. I've heard that bullsh*t line my whole life. Someone trying to have sex with me is NOT flattering. Someone who shows me the respect I deserve, however, IS flattering.
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