Had a first date, what now ?

[prodoge]

I had a date with this girl last night but can't assess her by the signals she was giving..

 

What you need to know is I'm not a DJ, just turned 20, and started ginving a ***** about the game a couple of weeks ago as I started reading posts on SS and others.

 

We started off in a pub where we chatted a bit about family, friends, what we enjoy getting to know each other a bit. I sat next to her and she kept her legs uncrossed and as we spoke we kept making eye contact but nothing over 3s. At some point a waiter came over taking photos for the website, so we agreed and for the photo i put my hand on her thigh to which she didn't react like trying to shake it off for example. She also put her hair around her ear exposing her neck to me maybe once or twice at the pub.

 

After the pub we headed to a latino bar where we both had never been before.

Again I sat next to her to make easier kino.

At first there wern't lany people there so we had a drink, watched what was going on and had a bit of a laugh.

This is where i kinda lost track. As the place got more crowded I told her let's go for a dance, at first she was like "no way" ( neither of us ever attempted to dance latino style). While chatting she seemed to put her hair round her ear on a regular basis (more often the further the date went on) but on the other hand, at some point she crossed her legs which put me in doubt.

After a while she went "let's go dance" and off we went. At first we danced individually (kinda club dancing), the i initiated a couple dance just taking her hands. We really didn't know what we where doing just trying to copy other couples, had a good laugh. While dancing together we held eye contact most of the time. Dancing individually, when we made eye contact she either smiled or laughed playfully at my dancing.

Back at the table i went through her hair with my hand trying to get some longer eye contact to maybe go for a kiss. Unfortunately, she held a brief eye contact the turned away probably sensing what i was up to...

 

On the way home, whenever there was silence for a short meriod she was trying to get conversation going again.

Once at her house she wasn't in a hurry to get out of her car, then to say good bye we did the typical french cheek kisses.

AND this is where i think i kinda ****ed up: after the good bye she did not leave the car imediately, so i thought **** it, put my left had on her cheak to turn her towards me to go for the kiss. At first she gave me her cheak and when she realized i went for more than the cheak she said a brief "no".

 

I Know going for the kiss at the end is not ideal to say the least, but in my head i thought at least I would get some feedback going for it.

The thing is now i dont know if it was a "No. Never" or a "No, not yet"...

Anyway, after that she said "Let's do that again" and asked me to text her i got home well.

 

Sorry for the long post, here is an imaginary potato:

[d0nnivain]

Stop over reading body language -- kept her legs open, showed you her neck etc.

 

 

The kiss at the end is just fine. Who ever said it wasn't was mistaken.

 

 

It sounds like things went well. Call her up arrange a second date. Do lightly kiss her hello when you pick her up.

[Satu]

You're overthinking this.

 

Just be natural and enjoy the time you spend together.

 

Ask her out again, soon.

 

 

Take care.

[prodoge]

Alright, what do you call "soon" for a second date, how long after the first should it be?

[gimlynick]

Wow, you really are overanalyzing everything.

Please try to enjoy your date, I'm sure you will be more relaxed if you don't look for those signs anymore. It's all natural stuff. And if you give a more relaxed feeling the girl will be more relaxed aswell.

 

I usually ask at the end of the first date when we could meet again.

So for now, I should just tell her that you enjoyed her company and that you should like to do stuff more often together.

Don't put 2 weeks in between dates!

 

I should say between 3 and 8 days or so...

[Satu]

Alright, what do you call "soon" for a second date, how long after the first should it be?

 

Right away, if you want to see her again.