mylittleone Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 (edited) So my fwb stopped asking to hook up over the last7 weeks. We have always indicated we would be exclusive, and we never had a conversation ending it. Last Friday he said the reason he stopped asking to hook up was he found out I was on antidepressants and he didn't want to mess with my head, but he loves it when I come over and how great our chemistry is. Today I find out he has been hooking up with another girl in work. (Not even by him just a work colleague) I know I have no reason to be upset, I just need someone to reassure me this long term is a good thing . ( I know I will never be able to sleep with him again) I have no intention on bringing this up with him. Just sucks I have to sit next to him in work know g he didn't even have the decency to tell me. Edited May 21, 2016 by mylittleone
Author mylittleone Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Please someone tell time this pain will go away. I really loved him. And to find out that way was just cruel.
katiegrl Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Yes time does heal, but sweetie he was an FWB. So not sure exactly what you were expecting. Is there a way you can apply for a transfer? It will be hard to move on when you are sitting next to him all day. If not, if it were me I would look for a new job. Lesson learned for next time, no FWBs in the workplace. That said, I am so so sorry you are hurting. Hope you feel better soon. Hugs.
Author mylittleone Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 No chance of a change of job or department, just got to stick it out. Just wish he had the balls to tell me without finding out through office gossip. Apparently I'm meant to be one of his best friends.
Laprus9 Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 Please someone tell time this pain will go away. I really loved him. And to find out that way was just cruel. Did it not ever occur to you to inform this man of your feelings?
Author mylittleone Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 I did back last summer and Nov. He is very much aware I'm in love with him
katiegrl Posted May 21, 2016 Posted May 21, 2016 No chance of a change of job or department, just got to stick it out. Just wish he had the balls to tell me without finding out through office gossip. Apparently I'm meant to be one of his best friends. Yeah I hear ya. People suck sometimes, and friends often disappoint. Try to rise above and not take it personally. HE is a coward which is why he couldn't tell you himself. The next girl will be no different. Be thankful he is gone from your life, now you can find a guy who cares about you and wants a RL with you. Learn from this experience . Stay strong! At work, be professional. Do not engage. Keep your nose to the grindstone and ignore the drama and BS, and you will be OKAY. One day you will look back and laugh at this, I promise!
Author mylittleone Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Thank you katiegrl , I'm dreading going back to work, it's such a small office he's the boss and then me and 2 other guys. Like u said keep my head down. For someone that doesn't want to mess with my head he does a good job of it.
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