blue_eyes18 Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Ok, so how do you know if a guy really likes you or is just wanting to hang on to you for his own benefit, not necessariyl just sex-wise. Ok, we went swimming together the other day and it was fun, and then when we started to have sex, it was alright at first. Well, I am not going into details, eww! But anyways, `then he started saying stuff like"I was trying to wait til I was married to have sex again" and all that, ok, me too. We just had sex though like 2 weeks ago before the other night. Ok, I would love to do that too, but you know. Ok, and it was his idea basically anyways, he brought it up first. BUT, he was just laying there staring at me and was talking about stuff. I mean, he can be so sweet, but we have gotten into bad arguements cause he was being a complete d***, and I didn't talk to him a while, Then he came up to me oneday and was trying to talk to me. Ok, well, he is really busy and so am I, but we talked yesterday and stuff and we are getting along so well right now, and he says things like he thinks I need someone to "straighten me up" haha and was asking me alot of questoins about my personal life and we were talking alot. I don't know, I think he is cute, but you know how guys can be. Well, some of them, anyways, not ALL of them! lol I just don't wanna get played. He acts like he wants me to just care for him and stuff, like he said"Why don't you just lay here by me instead of having sex" and stuff like that, I mean, what the hell? And other times it has been bad cause he would turn into a dick. Maybe I was being too pushy with him back then, I think I was. I just don't know if I should even give him the time of day, I odn't need another waste of time. I really don't. I know this prolly don't even make sense cause I haven't gone into details. I guess basically what I am trying to say, is how do you know if a guy is just trying to keep you around or if he really does like you or something but just wants to take it slow? I mean, there are other guys I could be with or something, but he happens to be one that I like in certain ways for certain things. And I kinda think we would be good for each other. It just depends, I guess you would just have to know this guy. Anyways, I guess I was just needing to vent or something. I guess I will figure ito ut myself. I mean, how can you really tell after everything that's happened with him anyways? I mean, some guys are clear cut, and some aren't? I guess! I don't know. I guess I will give it time before I jump to any conclusions. I will see how this weekend goes, like how he treats me and stuff. I know sometimes I think he is a waste of my time and that I deserve better, but that was months ago. I think he is maturing and really actually a good dude to be with in ways. LIke I said, we might be good for each other. We both have kids, mine is 2 and his is 3. I know he is always stressed out and stuff, so that might be some of the reasons we argued sometimes, or disagreed. Well, thanks for listening.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted June 22, 2005 Author Posted June 22, 2005 Actually, I am just enjoying us being friends. What's the point in wondering what the heck it's gonna turn into anyways? Either way, it's gonna turn into something, and either way, it will be what it will be. So I am just gonna concentrate on being friends. BUT, I would like to know if I am setting myself up for disappointment. I sometimes I have bad feelings about him relationship wise, but I also think he is trying to change and he means well.
EnigmaXOXO Posted June 22, 2005 Posted June 22, 2005 Ok, so how do you know if a guy really likes you or is just wanting to hang on to you for his own benefit, not necessariyl just sex-wise. When he actually makes the effort to spend quality time with you without it always leading to sex. When he genuinely enjoys your company and is content with just hanging out with you. When he calls during the day just to say hello because he misses you, rather then setting up the next booty call. When he reverts to preschool "playground" behavior and acts like a complete goofus just to make you laugh. (BIG CLUE!) When he wears that silly "perma-grin" and laughs at all your stupid jokes. When he accepts all the relentless teasing from his male buddies about being "whipped" without the need to grab his nads, posture and repent. (EVEN BIGGER CLUE!) When he pretends not to even notice that zit on your forehead and tells you you're beautiful, anyway. THAT'S when you kinda get the clue that he might really "like" you.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted June 22, 2005 Author Posted June 22, 2005 Yeah, this guy is so freaking funny, and he is always trying to make me laugh! haha I think we both enjoyed each other's company the other day, too. I know now he is talking aobut marriage, always bringing the word up, I don't know. I am wondering if he wants me to act like I care for him, or if he is just trying to **** with me and use me. lol YOu just gotta know this guy. I think he is kinda cool though deep down, and I also know he has had a lot of stress for a long time, and I think I will just try to be more understanding. I just don't want to think he likes me likes me, ya know, and then all the sudden me realize he doesn't or something. I don't know, it might not be a good thing to expect much outta him right now, or ever. But the way he has been talking lately, I don't know. I might as well just wait and see, that's all I can do. Him and I both have so much to deal with. I am 19 with a baby and he is 24 with a 3 year old, and we both work full time and I am going to school also. So I guess there is no point in rushing or worrying. haha I just like being friends with him anyways right now. hahaha He is so hilarious and fun to be around sometimes. I do like that.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted June 22, 2005 Author Posted June 22, 2005 RIght now, I am the one who called him yesterday again after him not returning my phone call. He was spending time with his little girl though, I understand cause I had just layed down with my son and was trying to get him to sleep. lol Anyways, he talked to me a little and said he would talk to me tomorrow. He said goodnight and told me to have a good day at work tomorrow. So, he is being sweeet and stuff, but if he doesn't call me today, I am gonna get ill cause who says they will talk to you tomorrow and not call or even call you back? I am gonna see if he calls me back tonight and go from there. I am not trying to analyze everything, I am just trying to get to the point and nip any BS in the bud, because what happened with him and me in the past. Anyways, thanks for listening!!!
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