Beyond broken hearted

[strong-hearted]

Hi guys

So I was dating this guy for a year and a half, most of our relationship has been a long distance relationship but on January he moved to Arizona and before that we were just making plans for me to move in to Arizona with him, I even shipped a box about a month ago, right after that we had a conversation, he tells me he doesn't trust himself he doesn't want to dragging me along because I was supposed to move in with him May 1st and that his life was a mess and and that stuff so he said how about if we wait 6 months you focus on you and I will focus on myself, and for me to get my GED drivers license and a car and if I still wanted to move in with him after that then I could, he even says this isn't over, even though I offered for us to just go our separate ways and he refused. Just last Tuesday I couldn't help but lurk-he blocked me on fb but I used another account, it brought my world down when I saw a picture of him and this girl and well the are getting married! I confronted him but he's too big of a coward that he can't even face me or give me some answers or at the very least give me closure, he won't even send me my clothes that I shipped back, I have been doing nothing but thinking about it to try to make sense out of it but I can't wrap my head around it, please if anyone out there who has experienced something similar please help!

[Satu]

He's a complete idiot, and utterly worthless as a life partner.

 

Have pity on the girl in the picture.

 

You won't get any closure from him.

 

Sorry.

 

 

No Contact:

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him from all social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

[CarrieT]

Regarding the stuff you mailed him: IT IS JUST STUFF.

 

In the grand scheme of things, it is best to call it a loss, cut your ties, and move on. Stop stalking him.

 

He probably never intended to have you move together and he was always playing you. You were the OW as you can see that he is marrying someone else.

 

Also, you might want to contact HER and tell her about the guy she is about to get married to.

[strong-hearted]

you know I was thinking about contacting her and telling her all about him but you know what, let her find out on her own, I hate him for this and I will never forgive him because I was nothing but good to him I gave him my all I gave him money I did a lot for him and he just played me

[fixing]

So many spineless, two faced cheaters out there! Sorry to hear about this.

 

Well, at least you found out what kind of cowardly no balled loser he is now as opposed to having moved to Arizona.

 

NC and be strong.

[Satu]

you know I was thinking about contacting her and telling her all about him but you know what, let her find out on her own, I hate him for this and I will never forgive him because I was nothing but good to him I gave him my all I gave him money I did a lot for him and he just played me

 

I know it doesn't feel like it yet, but you're better off now.

 

You conducted yourself with integrity, and you've lost nothing of value.

 

Look forward to better days.

 

 

Take care.

[strong-hearted]

I know, a lot of people tell me it's just a blessing in disguise but right now I don't see it that way, even though he hurt me to my soul I still wish the best for him, and what kills me even more is that the guy before me did the exact same thing to me and I went and put myself in the same situation. It honestly hurts, it doesn't really hurt that he's out of my life because I knew it wasn't going to last and I was even expecting him to pull something like this because he never gave me reasons to trust him, I had plenty of chances to leave him and yet I stayed.

[Satu]

You might like to look at Natalie Lue's work.

 

Its against the rules of this forum to post a direct link to it, but you'll find it easily enough.

 

Hold your head high and be good to yourself.

 

Time for some serious self love.

 

 

Take care.

[strong-hearted]

Thank you so much for you kind words, I really need to learn to love myself.

[little_cloud]

Sorry to hear about your situation. The guy is definitely an idiot who mistreated you to a large extent Just believe in karma. If he did such bad things to you, it will come back to him like a boomerang one day.

 

 

Never contact him again. If a man is an idiot, you should be very happy for him to disappear from your life. And if he ever gets in contact with you, do not reply. He is not worth a single minute of your life.

[strong-hearted]

Thank you so much, as much as I want to believe in karma and hope this gets back to him, I know it won't because he is so evil and he will get away with it. But every waking day I pray for this pain to go away because it's just unbearable