How to forget

[david012014]

I just want to ask for some advice on forgetting my ex please?

 

It's been almost 2 years since we broke up and I still think about her every day and the happiness I had when I was with her. Even if it was just a short relationship it has seemed to have really set itself in my head and heart and I just can't seem to move on.

 

I eat myself up daily just thinking about what I have lost. It's not that I want it back with her as I know she hurt me. It's just I want that feeling of love and happiness back full stop and unfortunately the only thing that has ever given that truly to me was the time I was with her.

 

Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

[Satu]

You can't fill the emptiness from outside.

 

You used your ex to temporarily patch the emptiness, but that can only ever be a temporary fix.

 

You should cultivate feelings of loving kindness for others inside yourself.

 

Cultivate empathy and compassion towards others.

 

That is the only way you can permanently fill the emptiness.

 

 

From my journal:

 

 

To be loved, be loving.

To find peace, be peaceful.

To find forgiveness, be forgiving.

To be cared about, be caring.

To be treated kindly, be kind.

To be understood, be understanding.

To have friends, be friendly.

 

Etc...

Take care.

Edited May 20, 2016 by Satu

[kwhita1]

I was in a similar situation. I only dated this guy for 8 months and we have been broken up for two yrs now. The best advice I can give you is that you need time. There is no specific amount of time for when you should be over it.

 

 

Allow yourself to feel, allow yourself to grieve, allow yourself time. However, the best thing that can help you is to also remember that in order for a wound to heal, you have to stop touching it. If you're constantly going back to the memory of her, you will never be able to get over her.

 

 

I thought I would never move past my ex but as I sit here writing this, I can assure you that I am 110% over him. I have no interest in what he's doing or who he's doing it with. It took some time but it happened.

 

 

One thing that helped me was seeing him. If you're able to, arrange a time to see her, do it! People change, things change. The dynamics between us were so different the second time around. My attraction to him was totally gone. I was in love with the idea of him and what we use to have.

 

 

One last thing you can do is stop seeing things through rose colored lenses. Don't remember the past better than it was and don't envision the future darker than it will be. Things will work out.