pinkicedkks Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 We have been seeing each other for months. He goes to uni 3 hours away. 3 weeks ago I left to go home from his uni & didn’t hear from him. I got a couple ‘i miss you’ messages but apart from that he has BARELY talked to me & even when he has he hasn’t seemed interested. We were fine – i’m not sure what has happened… He’s back home this weekend and has agreed to meet up but since i haven’t heard from him in 3 days. I’m leaving it to him to meet up when he is back but I don’t know what to say to him when he comes around. I’m just really confused and I don’t know what’s going on.
PegNosePete Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Well, I suggest you ask him what's going on when you meet up, then.
basil67 Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 (edited) Is this the same guy you were pushing away? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/470981-how-do-i-stop-pushing-him-away It was on again/off again and last you wrote, you'd decided to just be friends. He's being a friend. Friends don't contact each other as frequently as boyfriend/girlfriend. Time to move on and find another guy. Edited May 20, 2016 by basil67 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 If this is the same guy from your other threads, it seems clear that you aren't a couple right now. The last time you posted, you mentioned you had been on-and-off with him for a while, and that he said he wanted space. That appears to still be the case, unless more has transpired since then. May I ask, whose idea was it to meet this weekend? Yours or his?
Author pinkicedkks Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 Is this the same guy you were pushing away? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/470981-how-do-i-stop-pushing-him-away It was on again/off again and last you wrote, you'd decided to just be friends. He's being a friend. Friends don't contact each other as frequently as boyfriend/girlfriend. Time to move on and find another guy. God no! that is my ex and is way way way over. That was over a year ago I wrote that post. New guy, way better, treated my so much better until he went away
Author pinkicedkks Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 If this is the same guy from your other threads, it seems clear that you aren't a couple right now. The last time you posted, you mentioned you had been on-and-off with him for a while, and that he said he wanted space. That appears to still be the case, unless more has transpired since then. May I ask, whose idea was it to meet this weekend? Yours or his? Different guy, that was my ex, we have been very very off for over a year now. This guy treated me much better until he left and it has become this issue. His suggestion a few weeks ago, I brought it up again Wednesday but he hasn't talked to me since. He snapchatted me a few times tonight (general - not aimed at me) and he is back with no current attempts to catch up...
elaine567 Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Different guy, that was my ex, we have been very very off for over a year now. This guy treated me much better until he left and it has become this issue. His suggestion a few weeks ago, I brought it up again Wednesday but he hasn't talked to me since. He snapchatted me a few times tonight (general - not aimed at me) and he is back with no current attempts to catch up... Its over. Sorry! People who are interested, act interested. I guess his "interests" are now 3 hours away at his uni. 3
katiegrl Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 We have been seeing each other for months. He goes to uni 3 hours away. 3 weeks ago I left to go home from his uni & didn’t hear from him. I got a couple ‘i miss you’ messages but apart from that he has BARELY talked to me & even when he has he hasn’t seemed interested. We were fine – i’m not sure what has happened… He’s back home this weekend and has agreed to meet up but since i haven’t heard from him in 3 days. I’m leaving it to him to meet up when he is back but I don’t know what to say to him when he comes around. I’m just really confused and I don’t know what’s going on. What prompted him to say everything was "fine." Were you asking about it, asking for reassurance? You say he has "agreed" to meet you this week end. I take it this means you were the one pushing to meet him, and he agreed? If so, stop chasing him! Stop asking for reassurance. When a guy starts to pull back, YOU pull back. For now leave him alone. Do NOTHING.
Kaleard Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 It sounds like a classic case of a guy who wants to break up but doesn't have the balls to tell you so he is using convenient life circumstances to slowly pull away from you and hope you get the hint. This relationship is over for now. You trying to grab a hold of him will only make him slip away faster. You have to move on and hope he starts to miss you and reconsiders but it's not likely. 2
truth_seeker Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 I don’t know what to say to him when he comes around. I’m just really confused and I don’t know what’s going on. 1) You ask him what's going on. 2) You say: "Why have you been quiet lately?"
truth_seeker Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Its over. Sorry! People who are interested, act interested. I guess his "interests" are now 3 hours away at his uni. I have to agree. Usually people who go away to school, far away from their SO, they want to break things off as it's a hassle to keep it going and there are other prospects right in front of them. 1
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