star801 Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Met a girl on OKC and although the process was slow (we both infrequently log onto the site/didn't have the app), we ended up meeting up after a month and going on two dates, both roughly a week apart from each other at the end of April/beginning of May. Our late date took place the the night before I flew out to Europe and I'd say that the date (overall) was good - conversation flowed, physical contact, kissing, etc. The next day, I shot her a text a few hours before my flight telling her that I had a nice time and that I hoped that she had fun on her trip to Seattle. My cell service was spotty throughout my week and a half trip (I bummed around using WiFi and my friend's phone), but I saw that she responded a few days later saying she landed safely in Seattle and hoped that I have a blast in Europe. This led me to believe that there was some interest in seeing me again (as opposed to not responding at all or saying thanks for the night, but no thanks). Fast forward to me returning from my holiday over the weekend. After recuperating from the jet lag, I shot her a text on Monday telling her that Europe was a blast and I inquired how her trip to Seattle was... However, I haven't heard anything back from her yet. I recall that she's going out of town to Houston this weekend, but not entirely sure that changes anything. Anyone experience something like this? Did going on vacation kill the momentum? Any thoughts or recs on the matter?
CarrieT Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 She may have just met someone else while you were away....
Author star801 Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 The thought crossed my mind. That being said, I'm still active on OKC, and noticed that she's been active too (unless her interest is more on some guy on there, in which case your'e right). Just surprised that things seemed to be progressing to a 3rd date for it to flame out.
Dis Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Hun just keep in mind that this is the very beginning stage of dating...only 2 dates...which means that anything can change...and things can come to a dead end for any reason...thats just how it works. What I got from your post was she probably met someone else. In the beginning of dating, if the momentum isnt kept at a good pace, things can fizzle out. I think thats what happened here so she started looking else where. There is a chance that maybe shes just busy with work but if I were you I'd start meeting some new women from okcupid and keep busy. Dont put your life on hold for someone you've only been on 2 dates with. If she was going to loose intrest so quickly the way she did, she wasnt the right girl anyway. I know you must be disappointed and I'm sorry hun but theres plenty of fish in the sea so keep your chin up and get out there
katiegrl Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Did going on vacation kill the momentum? Any thoughts or recs on the matter? Yes that is precisely what happened. She lost the connection. Not your fault but you only had the two dates and although they were good, you hadn't interacted enough in person to develop any sort of real connection that would survive nearly a two week break with little to no contact. If you still really like her which it sounds like you do, you will have to start over from scratch. And build the connection again. I dunno though cuz you emailed her and she hasn't responded. But TBH that email sounded like you were talking to a friend rather than a girl you are interested in dating. Asking her how Seattle was.... blah. Too late now but you should have contacted her immediately upon your return (f**k the jet lag) and asked her out! Wait a couple of days and try again. Call her and ask her out. Plan something fun! Hopefully you can start over, keep in regular contact and build the momentum/connection again. It's worth a shot IMO. Your call though... good luck.
Author star801 Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 Hah thanks. ^Text not email. I've got a few dates lined up for next week, she just seemed more of a LT type, which is more what I'm looking for. Dating has been exhausting.
Dis Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Hah thanks. ^Text not email. I've got a few dates lined up for next week, she just seemed more of a LT type, which is more what I'm looking for. Dating has been exhausting. I hear you hun, dating is tough. Take a break if you need to. Glad your getting back out there though. Every date you go on is one date closer to finding the right one Best of luck!
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