crunchyautumn Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I need some advice on a situation I am not sure is "normal". My friends tell me it isn't, but maybe outsiders will see it differently. In the beginning, I didn't interpret much into this, but as time has gone by and because of what my friends have been saying, I started to see it a bit differently... I met a guy not too long ago. We ended up talking and upon saying goodbye he suggested meeting up at some point. I didn't think much of it initially and saw it as an entirely platonic thing, especially as he mentioned he had a girlfriend and I naively thought I'd never hear from him again anyways when agreeing to it. He got in touch a few days later though and we started texting until we eventually met up. Nothing happened other than the two of us having a drink, a laugh and a great conversation for a handful of hours. After this, I again thought I'd never hear from him again, but he got back in touch (to date I've never initiated any conversation), we texted back and forth every day and eventually met up again. Essentially, this same pattern has been going on for a few months - he's still getting in touch, we keep texting and have met a handful of times (he's the one suggesting). Now my friends all think this "friendship" isn't normal (going as far as saying that our meet ups could be considered as dates), saying it's odd he's still in touch as he has a gf and we don't have a typical foundation for a friendship. They think he might be interested in me despite being in a relationship. Like I mentioned, to date, nothing has ever happened. However, I must admit that he's been quite a bit flirty, both in person and via text, which I've mostly been ignoring... I know this also isn't a tell tale sign, but he has never ever mentioned his gf again ever since we first met, although they are still together, and it's not as if we only talk about the weather. It's almost as if she doesn't exist. Any opinions?
Scarlett.O'hara Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 It sounds like you are being lined up as a backup if things don't work out with his girlfriend. Either that or he is hoping to make you his bit on the side if he is persistent enough. It might be flattering in the beginning, but what you are really seeing is his true character. Proceed at your own risk.
alphamale Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 he's scoping you out to see if you can replace his supposed gf
preraph Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 He's just lining you up for a replacement. He'll do the same to you if you date him too.
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