Dennis123 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Alright so I met this girl at a friends predrinks last week and then we just talked and danced the whole night clubbing. We are both second year uni students. Toward the end she gave me her phone to put my number in and I walked her home. Ever since we've just been messaging each other constantly just talking about anything with no pauses. She's a busy person because she studies pharmacy and actually dedicates time to study and class as well as having fun. A week later we both agreed to meet up for just lunch. I was expecting just like a 1 hour conversation at maximum before she left to study or something. But it turned out we talked at the restaurant for nearly 2 and a half hours! We got kicked out but then just talked at a park and walked around the city for another 4 hours. I really do like her and I know some people will say that these would be enough hints for me to make a move especially since she's never hung out so long with someone whilst talking. The only thing that I'm getting skeptical of is that she hasn't given any like physical hints like just patting me or any flirts so idk if that could mean it's friendzone. I'm going to meet her next week so I dont know whether to pursue this or just let it go.
Kaleard Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Dude, you HAVE to make a move ASAP! It may even be to late for you at this point but I'd still try it the very next time you see her. If there is one thing I've learned about women (most anyways) it's that you have to begin escalating physical contact with them very early in your relationship because if they get used to you not being physical, it will feel very awkward for them when you make a move later and they will likely reject your advances. The dreaded friend zone is REAL! I'm not saying go straight in for the kiss. Start with a bit of hand holding or putting your arm around her. See if she is accepting of that before you try anything else. If she brushes it off instead of smiling back off and give it another try later. If she is still brushing it off like it makes her uncomfortable you have your answer... she's not into you as a potential lover. I always begin subtly escalating soon after meeting a girl I'm interested in even if it feels uncomfortable because I have been put in the friend zone many many times!
smackie9 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 She's just getting to know you before she invests herself intimately. If you want to make it more romantic, ask her out on a real dinner date, dress up all fancy and all that, bring her a small bouquet of flowers. Hanging out will put you in the buddy zone.
Author Dennis123 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Hey so any tips on just getting intimate? Just start getting a little physical and ask her out on a real date?
Author Dennis123 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Hey dude can't I just ask her? Or is that just too much? And any tips on what else to do?
Grey40 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Don't ask her, it'll kill all attraction if there's any left. Make a move, and you'll find out pretty quickly how she feels. If you don't make one, you WILL be friend zoned. There's a super small window for that kind of thing.
Kaleard Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Grey is right! You NEVER ask a girl if you can kiss her, hold her hand, hug her, etc. It makes you come across as very insecure and she is much more likely to reject you. You have to just do it. Just do something as mall as putting your hand on her lap as you talk to her and gauge her reaction. You should be able to tell if she is into it or not because if she isn't she will tighten up and get uncomfortable. But at least you will know if there is anything there.
Author Dennis123 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Alright so I'll just stick to subtle moves then see how she reacts? Thanks for the input guys
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