wildfiremichael Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Hi I've tried to have women I meet fall in love with me but it doesn't work and it's often me who fall in love with them instead and then it ruins it all. Can anyone relate? Any tips? wildfiremichael
PrettyEmily77 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Hi I've tried to have women I meet fall in love with me but it doesn't work and it's often me who fall in love with them instead and then it ruins it all. Can anyone relate? Any tips? wildfiremichael No tips, aside from leaving them to reach their own conclusions in their own time. You know women aren't puppets, yes? 4
Author wildfiremichael Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 I probably wasn't clear, my apologies! It seems hard to make a woman fall in love with you. I want to be able to know how when "the right one" comes along Thanks! wildfiremichael
kztar Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 You won't have to force this to happen. You clearly haven't met the right woman. The right one will fall in love with who YOU are. Not who she wants you to be. She will love every inch of you without you forcing anything.
GorillaTheater Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I don't think there is a way to make or lead (however you want to put it) a woman to fall in love with you, although I know a few tricks to ensure that they don't. It's not something that be manipulated in any way. "The right one" is the one who falls in love with you without any machinations on your part. 2
NTV Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 You lead a woman to fall in love with you simply by being yourself. Any other options are essentially masks or acts, and you don't want her falling in love with someone you pretend to be.
smackie9 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Falling in love is an organic thing....it happens on it's own. There is no such magic spell, potion or anything else to make it happen. If you want things to be easier for you, stop putting them up on a pedestal. Women hate it when a guy is all eager and puppy eyed willing to do anything to please them. 1
Author wildfiremichael Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Ladies, I'm not suggesting manipulation - let me rephrase: How do I know when a woman is in love with you? Too often have I announced commitment too early only to have her shy away. Scenarios where we've been on dates and kissing. I feel sometimes it may be the fear of commitment for some of the women. And once again ladies, I know it's hard to see the context and communication tools just by plain text. But I'm not suggesting anything manipulating or hurtful!
PrettyEmily77 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 How do I know when a woman is in love with you? 1. She shows you 2. She tells you That likely won't happen at the first few dates/kissing stage, though. At that point, she'll show youinterest by willingly and enthusiastically accepting to go on dates with you or even initiating herself if she feels bold, and she will keep the lines of communication open (by calling, texting, etc.) between dates. 1
GemmaUK Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Too often have I announced commitment too early only to have her shy away. Scenarios where we've been on dates and kissing. I feel sometimes it may be the fear of commitment for some of the women. Quit doing this - it's a huge red flag. It's unlikely they bolt due to fear of commitment - if you are all in way early that would make anyone run. 1
Buddhist Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Too often have I announced commitment too early only to have her shy away. Scenarios where we've been on dates and kissing. I feel sometimes it may be the fear of commitment for some of the women. Well, I think I can answer this one. The old paradigm of we meet, we fall in love and commit to a lifetime together is simply dying. People are subconsciously waking up to the fact that particular formula leads to heartbreak almost 100% of the time. Yet, they don't know yet what the new paradigm is. Some people think the new paradigm is to take it slow, make sure he's the right one, then commit. Some people think it's polyamory, some people think it's casual dating or FWB, other people think it's singledom. So what you have out there is a lot of younger women particularly, but also women who've been down the heartbreak road just no longer running the old program. It now takes longer to find someone willing to be in a relationship proper. There's a lot of people not interested in relationships and there's even more people not ready to be in relationships. It's a sorting process. In that kind of environment it will be harder to find someone in love with you. The truth is, in your grandparents age people weren't in love with each other either. But they were more solidly running that program and so when they found someone who made them a decent offer they took it and told themselves it was love. It was just the fact that life was more homogenous and there were less choices so people willingly got with the program because there wasn't an alternative. The current environment is frustrating for both genders because people still want sex, they still want affection, they still want a significant other, but they just don't know what terms they want it on. There is this thing now called freedom and it competes with sex on a fairly equal footing. No-ones figured out yet how to get both sex and freedom in the same package. In the meantime 'love' is still a transaction between two people of you do this and I'll do that and then we'll call it love as long as we both agree on what those terms are. Yes, it's a tricky business this love thing because it's not an organic happening really, it's a negotiation with a lot of white noise in it.
Imajerk17 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 (edited) Hi I've tried to have women I meet fall in love with me but it doesn't work and it's often me who fall in love with them instead and then it ruins it all. Can anyone relate? Any tips? wildfiremichael Watch Disney movies, they'll teach you about how the world works. Seriously: How are people supposed to figure out your problem and give you a solution, going by a 4-line post? Women like men who think things through, perhaps starting with this very question. Edited May 19, 2016 by Imajerk17 1
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