kla31784 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Well not sure this is the right place to put this or not but if not move it please. Thanks for reading in advance also will try to keep it as short as i can. June 3rd would have been 14 years for us it been a up and down hill like all real relationships some people think its what they see in the movies and far from it. We have 3 kids 10 boy 9 girl 2 girl which is my life nothing better in the world then them. We had the same cell phones lg g4s and otter box case on both couldnt tell them apart sometimes i took hers and she took my no problem at all ever nothing to hide. Sex life was great untill it all went down hill now she saying sex was bad didnt last which it did we went for a hour 2 hours sometimes all night if we didnt have kids in the house. Now here are where the problems start. I went to use her phone one day as the kids are on my cell playing a game which was never a problem. She grabs her phone run in the restroom comes out 5 mins later and gives me the phone this had happen 2 maybe 3 times over the next week or 2. She became distant as i did also cause i couldnt wrap my head around it. I asked her is there anything i need to know or worry about she promised me no none at all and i was her everything. Now the sex life went down hill to like once over the next few weeks. One night she went out at 9pm saying helping her friend move some stuff from her old place but before she left took a shower did makeup and when she came home i questioned where she been and we pretty much split she tossed her engagement ring at me and told me get out of her house ( cars and home in her name she has better credit). This all happened on the 22nd of april she is dating a guy now and i noticed she was having people watch the kids and her staying the night at his place like on the 30th and she even sent me pics of them together and her sucking him. I asked her why she messed around and she always says i assume stuff and she never cheated. Now the new guy is the best ever best body kisser cock sex is all the best she says not sure what to make of all this pls help.
hunk Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 What advice do you need? She sent you a picture of her blowing her new man. Leave/divorce her immediately and don't look back. She does not respect you in any shape or form. If you stay with her and allow this to continue she will hate you more than you could ever understand and she will intentionally make your life misery. You mean nothing to her at this point. You are a plaything for her to take her twisted pleasure out on. Have some self respect for god's sake. She is garbage and you are associating yourself with literal human trash. Is this the life you want for yourself? You're the only one who can make this better. Leave, don't look back, get yourself on your feet and start a new life. It's going to be hard but you have NO other option. The alternative is to do nothing and face the worst depression imaginable in the coming months. Come on, man. 9
Toodaloo Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Wow - classy girl. Time to recognise this for what it is and accept that she wants nothing to do with you. Time to also get some proper advice reference access to children and where you stand with the house etc. Don't think about her for the minute just get yourself sorted with a roof over your head, get access to your children sorted out and seek advice about finances and splitting up. 1
NTV Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 There's a couple threads in the infidelity side of this forum of guys that went through similar things. I think you could benefit from the same advice.
Author kla31784 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 I have moved back home once we split i didnt stay at the house. We are going to court soon once papers are received until then i cant see my kids shouldnt be long tho. And idk think i just want the closure of why she did it but for some reason all she tells everyone is im 100% at fault.
Zahara Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 i just want the closure of why she did it but for some reason all she tells everyone is im 100% at fault. Of course she's going to blame you. Do you think someone who has the audacity to behave this way is going to have a conscience and take responsibility? No. Your closure doesn't come from why she did it but from you moving on from this because you and your kids deserve better. 5
Toodaloo Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 i just want the closure of why she did it but for some reason all she tells everyone is im 100% at fault. Of course she does because she doesn't want to be the bad guy in all this. Its called having your cake and eating it. She did it because she was fed up and too small minded to talk to you about it so went behind your back and shagged another guy to get her thrills... Like I say... Classy... really classy... By the way in case anyone missed it that is sarcasm...
fixing Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Yea. Sorry to hear that man. She sounds like a foul human being. What an utter despicable thing to do to you, and your KIDS.. Get out. Get away from her as quick as you can. Cut ALL contact, and avoid all places you may bump into her, or him. You deserve so much better then this. Its a really tough pill to swallow man and 14 years is a long time, but, you cant afford to dwell on that number. She has shown her true colours. 100% no contact permanently. You will never get closure because she feels NOTHING. Clearly. She is the bad guy here. Remember that pal. 1
Author kla31784 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Thank you all kinda hard to avoid some places cause my moms and our house are only 4 streets apart. And in the end the only people this is hurting is the kids which sucks major. Yeah i told her that i see now what we had and me didnt mean as much as she said it did to her at all. Just crazy you would just think that someone would figure what they want out before it hits the 14yr mark lol nope.
fixing Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 yea man. You got burned hard with this one. Trust me, it happens to the best of us. It hurts BAD. But, hey, it only makes us stronger in the long run (cliche I know) but true. Keep posting here man. This is a great outlet. Try to be noble when you do have to deal with her (divorce proceedings etc). She is the wrongun here and unfortunately, we have to pick up the pieces because the cheating types never fully accept their awful behavior. Stay strong man.
Author kla31784 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Believe this or not today has been a pretty easy day cause i opened up and talked about this. Not nearly as hard as the last few yes i still love her and will for the rest of my life in some strange way, but will never be with her again that bond was broke and is unrepeatable.
fixing Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Yea. Once she has cheated, it is broken, forever. I am the same. That can never be healed imo. Certainly not in your situation, or mine for that matter. You will be fine man, it will take a lot of time. But, each day that goes by, your mind will be slowly rebuilding and healing.
Little-Wolf Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 I'm so, so sorry you're going through this. You deserve so much better than this. This woman has shown her true colours. She does not respect you, or even care for you, to send such a disgusting, class-less photo. I don't doubt that she'll come crawling back in a few months time once her new man candy is sick of her. I've seen it all before. Ignore this woman. Don't give her the time of day. Of course you love her in some way, she is the mother of your children, but she doesn't deserve your thoughts, tears or your words. Stay strong. Do not converse with her at all, it seems she is looking for a fight. You are worthy of so much more than this. 2
Author kla31784 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Oh yes she is looking for a fight for sure i have told her stop texting me calling blocked her on facebook and all but for some reason even blocked i still get her text which i dont respond to or tell her leave me alone. I think the thing that stings the most which the house both cars mine and hers was in her name cause she had better credit. She came took my car gave her new guy all the car audio stuff that was in mine he sent me a pic with it all in his truck 2k worth of stuff and the cops wont do anything about it. I have all the bills of sale for the tv and all the stuff in the house but wont take her to court for it because that is the stuff my kids use or i would. She also meet this guy on pof face and pof i have seen become the devil for ltr's.
Raena Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 Were you married? I don't see anywhere in your post where you say if you were or not. I ask because if you were married, it doesn't matter whose name is on the cars or house, it's marital assets and belongs to both of you. If you weren't married, there isn't anything you can do about it. The police won't do anything because it's all in her name. I'm sorry you are going through this. I'll never understand why people have to be so nasty and disgusting after a break up. My ex was the same way... went out of his way to make sure I was aware that he had replaced me with a younger crazier crackhead version of me. Why kick someone when they are down? Makes no sense. Just remind yourself that she will get hers. It will come back to her eventually. People who treat others with such disdain will reap what they sow. One way or another, they always get exactly what's coming to them. If she is blocked on facebook, then she shouldn't be able to send you messages... shouldn't even be able to see that you have the account. Something isn't right with that, look into it... make sure you actually blocked her and didn't just unfriend. You may want to just delete that facebook account altogether. Don't talk to her on the phone or in person. Make her text or leave messages. Then use that in court if you can. I know I did all of that and it helped me feel better about what my ex did to me. I stopped responding to him unless it was about our child. Anything he put in writing, could have been used in court if I needed it. I ended up not needing it and you might not either but better to be safe than sorry. You could use it to explain why you haven't seen your children... she's making it impossible for you to do so. 3
Author kla31784 Posted May 19, 2016 Author Posted May 19, 2016 Yes she is blocked on facebook and i blocked her from calling but cant block her text messages. No i just asked the question to her on her birthday in December and she even said she didnt even want to tell me yes. i know nothing i can do bout the car but its just a shame how a person you thought loved you so much treats you so bad now.
Raena Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 Yes she is blocked on facebook and i blocked her from calling but cant block her text messages. No i just asked the question to her on her birthday in December and she even said she didnt even want to tell me yes. i know nothing i can do bout the car but its just a shame how a person you thought loved you so much treats you so bad now. What kind of phone do you have? There are apps out there that will block calls and texts. I didn't feel like I could just block my ex completely because of our child so I just set his ring tone to just vibrate or silent. If it's really bad and she won't stop sending you messages and harassing you then you might be able to ask for a restraining order. That's the extreme and unlikely if she's only calling/texting a few times. The easiest way to handle this though is to tell her that she can email you and then change your phone number so she can't text you anymore. Or tell her to talk to your lawyer if you have one. Whatever you do, you have to make it so she can't continue to harass you... she and her scumbag new man. He must be some kind of loser if he has taken to harassing you too. My point is... cut them both out of your life. You don't have to put up with their bullcrap. 1
Poutrew Posted May 20, 2016 Posted May 20, 2016 IF she is sending you pictures of her sucking the other man, then she is a very stupid person. I'd keep everything she sends me, including the pictures of her having sex with her OM. When she tells everyone how you are 100% to blame for the breakup, you can just show the picture of her sucking the other guys nozzle and let her friends, her mom, her pastor, etc. decide for themselves who is to blame...
Author kla31784 Posted May 20, 2016 Author Posted May 20, 2016 I have a android phone and her calls are blocked i just try to ignore the text from her unless its about the kids going to the er or something crazy like that. When this first all started i got a call from a number i didnt know it was the other guy. Talking about how i beat her all the time and done some very bad stuff to her. I have never put a single on her ever not once even after i been hit before never once touched her. And yes i am keeping all the pics and everything else i should be saying. Yesterday was tough as i have another son she gave his mom all my info and she should up saying i kidnapped her son 14 yrs ago. He is 15 now and hasnt seen his real mom in 14yrs took her to court she never showed up im just like how bad do you really want to try to make my life be just crazy.
Author kla31784 Posted May 21, 2016 Author Posted May 21, 2016 Well last night at 3am est her and her new man decided to text bomb my cell from here my cell only blocks her calls, and phone his phone they called block for a hour cant turn my phone on silent cause of work. I want to call back so bad and start a fight all they did was dog me in the text somehow someone told her i went on a date wasnt really a date just a old school friend she has a husband so nothing like that. So the text went something like she ugly i got a real man you know the story. Its like how much worse can it be for me she has the house both cars everything in the house i took nothing to my moms even tho i had the bill of sale. So in the end i pretty much lost everything i have ever owned and bought which really sucks.
Raena Posted May 23, 2016 Posted May 23, 2016 Look up text blocking apps for android. They exist. I had one on my phone called "Dead to me" Block her and him or change your number. It's all you can do at this point. Do NOT respond to them. It doesn't make sense that they would text bomb you about dating someone new without any provocation from you. Are you contacting her?
Toodaloo Posted May 24, 2016 Posted May 24, 2016 kla - I am going to put it very bluntly and simply. Seek legal advice. You are going to need to stay in contact for the kids sake but you need to sort out maintenance, access etc. Get some mediation/ legal advice. 1
Author kla31784 Posted May 25, 2016 Author Posted May 25, 2016 No i dont contact then at all had a bad situation she did text me with if you want to swap stuff i had some stuff of hers which i wanted to give back and get some of my stuff.Well it was a setup i went over she started hitting me i had blood on my face and in my hair,i tried to leave she followed and hit some more at that time the cops pulled up and seen me push her away from me and took me to jail cause she had a scratch on her hand. I DID NOT hit her only pushed her we have a no contact in place now. Guess in the end you see how people really felt about you over the years with all the lies that come out.
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