d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 He wasn't as into as you were into him. He thought he was paying you a compliment. Either way he's bowing out now, so unfriend him & move on. Who cares what is problem is or was? 3
gimlynick Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Well, I guess he wasn't 100% interested. And probably you were his back up. Now he realised that his backup is gone, and he's not amused Don't care about him and don't initiate contact. He can only make a fool of himself. Have fun with the current guy you are seeing! 1
Fuerza Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Has to be the most stupid excuse I've ever read on here or heard about, too much to concentrate on, really dude? He probably ignored you because he wasn't interested anymore, was seeing someone else etc. but then when he saw your picture with that other guy he might have gotten a bit jealous. I hate guys like him, please ignore him. He's only trying to cause drama. 4
Author kwhita1 Posted May 27, 2016 Author Posted May 27, 2016 This new fellow and I get on very well. A lot of similar interests, it's a great time so I am lucky to have found him. However I must admit that I was shocked at how the old guy acted because we were friends for 3 years before any type of relationship developed and he came onto me a lot stronger than I did him. I guess it matters not why he does what he does but I am at a loss to explain his bizarre behavior.
smackie9 Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Well if he can't be honest with you now, then he would never have been honest with you in a relationship....you dodged a bullet. 1
kendahke Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 Don't be surprised when he starts contacting you again. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted May 27, 2016 Posted May 27, 2016 What is this guys problem? Let an older, wiser lady translate weasel-speak for you. This guy was nowhere NEAR a good emotional place to start up with you after his breakup. He plunged forward anyway, thinking the best way to get over his ex was to invest what he could in you. Yes, you were the proverbial rebound. Maybe for a small while he even had himself fooled that he really was ready to move on. I don't think his intentions were hurtful or malicious, but I think he knew to a certain extent that what he was doing probably wasn't the right thing to do to you, leading you on and giving you hope. But this is where the weasel part comes in. Instead of having the guts to man up and come to you and admit that he'd gone back to his ex and that he'd never meant to hurt you or lead you on and he was genuinely sorry for doing so, he instead acted like a greasy, cowardly little weasel and completely refused to acknowledge your existence. He chose the coward's way out which says a WHOLE lot about him - and none of it good. If he were 13 years old I might understand this unacceptable childish and extremely selfish behavior. But not from a supposed adult. Lastly, the gutless wonder was afraid to say anything to you until he saw that you'd moved on with this new guy. Once he saw you weren't crying into your beer and cursing the day he was born, he felt safe enough to come out of his weasel hole and write a couple of empty platitudes to you about how great things are for you and how lucky this new guy is and all this other nonsense. Because Mr. Weasel sees this as a happy ending - and one HE didn't have to suffer to make happen. Now that you're safely off with someone else and not his problem anymore, it's no sweat off his back to type his sugary nonsense like he's the big peace keeper. A word to the wise. The guy is a greasy little weasel who lacks the integrity to own his sh*t. I know you want to act toward him like he didn't hurt your feelings and that everything is sweetness and light, but all you'd be doing is rewarding his atrocious behavior. I always say everyone has ONE chance to disrespect me. He had his chance to disrespect you and he blew it all to hell. Don't be his friend. He doesn't deserve your friendship. 4
Author kwhita1 Posted May 28, 2016 Author Posted May 28, 2016 Here's a good one for you and a plot twist for me, now he's saying he can't get the thought of me out of his system and he wants to see me. Is this a joke?
whichwayisup Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 Here's a good one for you and a plot twist for me, now he's saying he can't get the thought of me out of his system and he wants to see me. Is this a joke? Ignore him. This guy is a player and he's bouncing all over the place. You're dating someone else so forget him. Really, he's not worth it and he's playing cat and mouse with you (aka ego feed). It's toxic and not something you want to continue to! 1)delete and block him from facebook 2)focus on your current guy Ryan. 2
privategal Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 You cannot see him, DO NOT overlook how you were treated. It was awful what he did and if you see him and he sweets you to death and smooths it all over he doesnt feel like such a jerk. He IS a jerk. He is not your friend and he is a game player. He didnt want to be "that guy" huh? Id run, block...ghost him like he did to you. Get him out of your life please trust me I learned this lesson well and the hard way and more than once. Lose him.
kendahke Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 Here's a good one for you and a plot twist for me, now he's saying he can't get the thought of me out of his system and he wants to see me. Is this a joke? Actually, the question you should be posing is "does he think I'm that stupid or hard up for a man?" You know what? He made a choice. He chose to ignore you and now that he can't have you, he's acting like you didn't notice that he chose to ignore you and that you're cool with how he treated you, so that's why he's upped the ante with you and is trying to put the hook back in your cheek. Yeah, I supposed in some twisted, emotionally stunted way, it's flattering, but seriously: do you want a twisted, emotionally stunted man who can't open his got dang mouth and tell you what he wants or doesn't want? Did you enjoy how you were feeling when he didn't even give you the common courtesy of returning a text or phone call? Because dealing with him means you're cool with how you were treated--and that's called lowering your worth. If you want to discount yourself to the point where you find this insult to your esteem attractive, then I don't know what to tell you. My advice to you is to put him on block on all methods of contact and just leave him alone. He made a choice already and it wasn't you. Concentrate on the guy you're with now and don't give this lothario any access into your life. 1
smackie9 Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 Here's a good one for you and a plot twist for me, now he's saying he can't get the thought of me out of his system and he wants to see me. Is this a joke? Guy has some nerve when he sees you have moved on. What a tard. 2
privategal Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 His behavior isnt bizarre, its calculated. You still have feelings if your honest and since your emotions are tied to it and he was also a friend you want to excuse it and believe hes a good guy and truly wants to be your friend. But hes that guy that gets his ego stroked by knowing he is the object of your affection even though hes tied up with his ex and doesnt want you...so you seeing him and him being able to sway your emotions and affections back (and he WILL...HE WILL) Is all for his gain. You cant see it but its a game...your gonna be used...he will carry this on as long as you let him. Unfortunately...cut your losses NOW. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 Here's a good one for you and a plot twist for me, now he's saying he can't get the thought of me out of his system and he wants to see me. Is this a joke? Anyone whose willing to make you a NON-ENTITY at the drop of a hat when it serves him - and that's exactly what you became to him, a non-entity - has ZERO respect for you. And if you play this game with this greasy little weasel, then that tells him you have no respect for yourself. 2
keiji Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 The guy wasn't that interested and he's such a coward that he didn't find the courage in him to tell you, so he disappeared. He sees you when someone else and suddenly his ego starts itching. He's a dog in the manger. Ignore him, it's what he deserves. 1
privategal Posted May 28, 2016 Posted May 28, 2016 Here's a good one for you and a plot twist for me, now he's saying he can't get the thought of me out of his system and he wants to see me. Is this a joke? Anyone whose willing to make you a NON-ENTITY at the drop of a hat when it serves him - and that's exactly what you became to him, a non-entity - has ZERO respect for you. And if you play this game with this greasy little weasel, then that tells him you have no respect for yourself. Lois!!!! Both of your posts are epic!! And if you dont mind. Can you expand on non entity?! Brilliant reminder as our hearts and emotions get tied up...were flattered when we should be disgusted. Keep going, your SO RIGHT ON!! 1
Author kwhita1 Posted May 28, 2016 Author Posted May 28, 2016 Oh, make no mistake; I am not flattered, I'm amused. I think this is probably the stupidest situation I've ever encountered. I will not feed into him whatsoever. I just thought you all could use the laugh like I did. The moment he ignored me, I felt confused & unsure of how to react but after a few days it became blatantly clear that I am worth more than that. I was just asking for ideas and perspectives on why people think he's doing what he's doing but rest assured everyone, I'm no gluten for punishment. I dealt with a narcissistic ex for a year who was the same way and he taught me my lesson. I'm not sure what it is about me that draws these specific types of men. It's very discouraging because I'm not dependent, insecure or meek. Maybe it's vulnerability in a situation? I notice that I got involved with both of these men not too long after a big break up. Whatever the case, thanks for the kind words and good advice! I really appreciate it. 2
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