BikerAccnt Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 So, I'm back out in the world of OLD after 2.5 some years...and oh how I almost forgot what fun it is :/ Anyway.. So I'd been messaging a woman, and we agreed to meet up. First date I proposed (after she had said she was free all week) she came back and said she couldn't make. She had forgotten she had made plans with an out of town friend for the night. She suggested another evening I told her that would work. She gave me her number and I called to confirm. WE had a nice easy flowing conversation. Today I woke up to a note apologizing but saying that she couldn't make it, her daughter needed her to babysit tonight. She sent the note late last night. She asked to reschedule for next week. I told her fine, but that I was leaving the date up to her, and that she should contact me when she knew her schedule. It was a friendly response, no passive-aggressive anger because I'm not. I really would like to meet her if her schedule clears up. I'm thinking that was the right thing to do no? She'd rescheduled on me twice, and though I believe her reasons, it indicates either she's not that interested or, she's just got to much going on, which is a yellow flag for me. This way the ball's in her court. I think I should leave it up to her at this point? Thoughts? I really hate this ****...it was so much easier 30 years ago...
introverted1 Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 She sounds a little flaky, honestly, or maybe not that interested. Who forgets an out of town guest? Or accepts a last-minute babysitting gig when she's already made plans? But yes, you handled it right imo. Ball is firmly in her court. 1
Zahara Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Yes, ball is in her court. You've made the effort and now it is up to her to reciprocate if she has interest. She's probably dating other guys as well so maybe that's why she was rescheduling but in any case, let her reach out.
Author BikerAccnt Posted May 18, 2016 Author Posted May 18, 2016 She sounds a little flaky, honestly, or maybe not that interested. Who forgets an out of town guest? Or accepts a last-minute babysitting gig when she's already made plans? But yes, you handled it right imo. Ball is firmly in her court. Well, I can understand the last minute babysitting gig when it's your daughter asking you to babysit your own grand-daughter. I do think that should take precedence...even over me But yeah...it's her turn now to make the plans.
Cinnamonstix Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Not saying this is the case, but there is another explanation beyond being a flaky/uninterested/busy that has nothing to do with the other person. When we meet in real life, the other person has seen us and interacted with us. We've already made that first impression, so when they ask us out we can assume they are attracted and like our company so far. When it comes to online dating, they have yet to make that first real life impression. Some people continuously put off meeting for the first time because they feel a bit of pressure to live up to their profile and are afraid that YOU won't like them in person. They want to make the best first impression, so they don't want to meet when they have say: PMS, a fresh zit, or a couple of pounds to shed before they feel confident. So they buy time, but keep you on the hook. If you two are vibing really well in your convos, then it could be what is happening here. But then, it is probably just as common, or moreso, that flakiness is a sign of lack of interest.
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