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Is that a no then? If so what do I do?

Bettyxx

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There is a man who was a friend who started flirting with me and I like him too. It has been a couple of weeks with lots of hugs and whispered it's nice to see yous and hand holding

 

It was my birthday a few days ago and he hugged me twice that afternoon and asked me about my plans so I though "sod it" and messaged him later asking if he fancied a birthday coffee next week

 

He messaged back that he is busy at work next week and congratulated me on something else i'd put on Facebook (I passed a uni exam)

 

Is this a no? And if yes how should I treat him when i inevitably see him next?

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MissBee Established Member

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Treat him as your normally would.

 

You asked him for coffee already and he declined. If he's into you then the ball is in his court now to reschedule.

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angel.eyes Established Member

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Treat him as you would any other friend. You wouldn't suddenly act awkward or standoffish if your BFF declines meeting you for coffee. Treat him no differently.

 

As to whether he likes you that way? Probably not. A guy crushing on you would have been all over that invite like a cheap polyester suit. Even if he were unavailable at the time you suggested, he would have used your offer as an opportunity to get a date. My guess is it was a polite brush off. Better to know now, than to waste months waiting for him to make a move. Some guys (and women) are just huge flirts. No harm, no foul. Now you know. Brush it off and on to the next prospect!

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Buddhist Established Member

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As a friend because that's what it sounds like he is. I have many similar connections with gay men. Lots of hugging, whispered intimacies etc. It's not always sexual in nature, clearly not in my case. :laugh:

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Erik30 Established Member

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I have to agree with the others, he's not interested.

If he was, he probably would've offered you an alternative. (If he's really that busy the entire week) You didn't mention a specific day to him, but he didn't even go into that and just changed the subject.

 

Just act like it never happened when you run into him.

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