SmartDude Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Right now I am totally single and happy. I see women who are also single and happy. I don't mind if they see other men and they don't ask about who I see. It is so perfect, why would I want to mess this up? I know what its like to be focused on one person and love only them, that is great too but that is not all there is to life and love.. Some times I hate the societal construct of monogamy! It seems so selfish to not share. When couples get together what do they do? They stay in their homes together sharing their love with each other but avoiding the rest of the world lol. Is it really impossible to love more than one person at once? Does any one else ever get mad at monogamy like I do?
Grumpybutfun Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 I'm monogamous by nature, I think. I am very happy in my monogamous marriage. The thought of other women doesn't really entice me. I think I got the sleeping around out of my system when I was single. It was fun, but the bond and passion with my wife is much more. I wouldn't trade this for that for all the power in the world. However, I think we are getting a little bit farther away from the expectations our grandparents espoused so maybe it really is just about choice. Men and women do not need to have marriages to raise children anymore. The stigma isn't there as it was in the past, and if you are happier single with many lovers, and the women are aware and agree, that is the path you need to take. Good luck, Grumps 2
xxoo Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 I think it's very possible to love more than one person at once. Maybe not for everyone, but for some. But why would you begrudge others who choose not to have multiple partners? It's not like you share indiscriminately. You are denying people your bounty, too! We all choose our partners and reject others. Does it matter if I reject 7 billion vs 6,999,950?
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Right now I am totally single and happy. I see women who are also single and happy. I don't mind if they see other men and they don't ask about who I see. It is so perfect, why would I want to mess this up? I know what its like to be focused on one person and love only them, that is great too but that is not all there is to life and love.. Some times I hate the societal construct of monogamy! It seems so selfish to not share. When couples get together what do they do? They stay in their homes together sharing their love with each other but avoiding the rest of the world lol. Is it really impossible to love more than one person at once? Does any one else ever get mad at monogamy like I do? I don't get mad at monogamy. However, I am of the (relatively frequently broadcast) opinion that Monogamy is as a result of social conditioning, as opposed to biological programming. It's a social conceit. We are taught to be monogamous, but it's not a natural human trait. We're mammals. Very, but very few mammals, in their natural state, remain monogamous. Even then, we as human beings are SERIALLY monogamous. That is to say, we expect fidelity with our current partner, but if we were truly, naturally monogamous we would ALL be still connected to our first partners.
BetheButterfly Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 I'm monogamous by nature, I think. I am very happy in my monogamous marriage. Me too The thought of other women doesn't really entice me. Me neither, or other men. I'm happy with my hubby only!!! the bond and passion with my wife is much more. I wouldn't trade this for that for all the power in the world. That's beautiful and very eloquently stated! However, I think we are getting a little bit farther away from the expectations our grandparents espoused so maybe it really is just about choice. Aye. People nowadays can choose what they want to do, which is fine - as long as they don't hurt other people. Good luck, Grumps
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