StephanieRose Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Am I dealing with phedophile freak? I mean I just came from another city, and I live in a apartment and this neighborhood this guy just started to talk with me, he is 22, and well I really at beginning don't see anything wrong I mean I trough it was simple friendship but things get strange I mean he said he like me, and I freak out because he is older than me, I just didn't talk to him anymore but he sends me Texts messages and touch my door, my mom open the door and he said he wanna talk with me, but I am scare I mean is normal that guys in their 20s feel attraction for teenagers?
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Yes, and I'm sorry, but you're freaking out unnecessarily. It's not so much that he's "older". It's that you're "younger". Let me clarify. I was 5 years younger than my ex-husband. Which meant that when HE was 22 - I also, was only 17. But we met, when I was 23. Which made him 28. And that was far more acceptable, if we go by your reckoning. I am now 5 years OLDER than my present husband. My father was 11 years older than my mother. They were married 57 years. My Grandmother was 11 years OLDER than my Grandfather. They were married 59 years. The gap is irrelevant. But for you, the timing is out. This wouldn't bother you if you were 24, and he was 29. So your worry is more to do with how young you are, than how much older he is. But calling him a paedophile is really going a bit strong. He would certainly be considered so, if you were 10 years younger - but you're a young lady - and it's not too long ago that he was in his teens. So you're really blowing this a bit out of proportion. 2
gimlynick Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 When I was 22 I started dating a girl who was 17 as well. She didn't say this untill the 2nd date... First she said she was 19. I've had an amazing 2 yr relation with her, but in the end the age gap and especially the fact that I work and she still has to start uni was a major issue. He is way further in life, so don't give him false hope and just ignore him. He is not a pedophile. Many girls 17-18 years old behave like they are 5 years older.
SmartDude Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Am I dealing with phedophile freak? I mean I just came from another city, and I live in a apartment and this neighborhood this guy just started to talk with me, he is 22, and well I really at beginning don't see anything wrong I mean I trough it was simple friendship but things get strange I mean he said he like me, and I freak out because he is older than me, I just didn't talk to him anymore but he sends me Texts messages and touch my door, my mom open the door and he said he wanna talk with me, but I am scare I mean is normal that guys in their 20s feel attraction for teenagers? Yes of course it is normal. He is only 5 years older. So in one year when your 18 its fine but right now its morally corrupt? How would that make sense. He might not be a phedophile, he might just like you and not know how old you are! They way you are talking about this though indicates that you are not ready anyway and should avoid this guy.
basil67 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 I don't see anything wrong with the ages here. However, the important thing is that for whatever reason, you don't want to talk to him anymore. Have you told him that you're not interested?
jen1447 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Yes of course it is normal. He is only 5 years older. So in one year when your 18 its fine but right now its morally corrupt? How would that make sense. Maybe not morally corrupt but it's probably criminal. If we're talking the US here, the age of majority varies but one thing the principle shares across the board AFAIK is that 'majority' allows for minors to have sexual relations with others who are within a certain age range of themselves, usually around 3 years. So if that's the case where OP lives, this guy is out of that range and he would technically be committing statutory rape by sleeping with her. Best to know that stuff before you jump.
TaraMaiden2 Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Maybe not morally corrupt but it's probably criminal. If we're talking the US here, the age of majority varies but one thing the principle shares across the board AFAIK is that 'majority' allows for minors to have sexual relations with others who are within a certain age range of themselves, usually around 3 years. So if that's the case where OP lives, this guy is out of that range and he would technically be committing statutory rape by sleeping with her. Best to know that stuff before you jump. Yes, but the term 'paedophile' is entirely unjustified, even in this scenario, which was the point of her post. Given that she has this opinion of him, I doubt very much the issue of 'sleeping with her' would even cross her mind, on a BF/GF level.
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