rocksocks Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Was texting with a girl, at one point she mentioned how she's so busy the next two weeks. I responded "I'm gonna need you to stop being so busy, I can't take you out if you're x and y." (Replace x and y with what she mentioned) She responded back with "lol sorry, I'm an independent woman, I'm all about the destinys child song" and followed up with a reference to Charlie's Angel (apparently they're related). The text seemed typical of her texting style. I didn't think anything of it at the time and our conversation continued as normal. So now the question is, should I have taken any meaning from her response, good or bad?
clia Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 She doesn't sound interested in going out with you. Sorry.
CarrieT Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Ask her ONE LAST TIME if there is any time she can make for a proper date and if she can't, than stop texting - she is wasting your time.
Grumpybutfun Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 She isn't interested. People who are interested will make time. Move on, G
mortensorchid Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 She's not interested in seeing you now or anytime. Move on.
Author rocksocks Posted May 17, 2016 Author Posted May 17, 2016 Advice taken. For some clarity, what she has going on in the next few days is stuff she literally can't reschedule (flights out of town). As I mentioned in my last thread, we've been hanging out pretty heavily recently (to the point where she dropped out of a camping trip to hang out, and also hasn't been out with her friends in a few weeks, hanging out with me instead), this week just happened to be particularly busy for her. That being said, I understand the argument of the "enthusiastic" response being to let me know when she was free, which she obviously didn't do.
candie13 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 she was mentioning she was "busy" and you have topped that with inviting her out to some places. Not smart. In my humble opinion, you could learn from this experience 2 things: - if a person pretends she's busy for the next 2 weeks, that's a code for her not wanting to be asked out at all - so don't even bother asking - if, however, you feel she might be interested in you, make sure to make a clear proposition, ask her out and expect an "yes" or a "no". Not in the middle of a conversation, that might get neglected or misinterpreted. "hey, there's this band I want to see this week, would you like to join me?" -"yes" or "no". Then you get onto the details of where, when and how. cheers, mate
Author rocksocks Posted May 17, 2016 Author Posted May 17, 2016 (edited) she was mentioning she was "busy" and you have topped that with inviting her out to some places. Not smart. In my humble opinion, you could learn from this experience 2 things: - if a person pretends she's busy for the next 2 weeks, that's a code for her not wanting to be asked out at all - so don't even bother asking - if, however, you feel she might be interested in you, make sure to make a clear proposition, ask her out and expect an "yes" or a "no". Not in the middle of a conversation, that might get neglected or misinterpreted. "hey, there's this band I want to see this week, would you like to join me?" -"yes" or "no". Then you get onto the details of where, when and how. cheers, mate Maybe I wrote something incorrectly, she's going on a couple of trips the next week and a half, which is what I meant by busy, and she's said yes anytime I've asked her somewhere specific. I wasn't asking her out anywhere specific today. Edited May 17, 2016 by rocksocks
candie13 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Well, then keep mild contact while she's traveling and set up a proper date after that. See how that goes.
preraph Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Call her next time. You can't tell when someone is teasing you over text.
phineas Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Have you kissed this woman if you have been out with her a few times? Your post is a little confusing so i'll give mt standard advice. sounds like she isn't interested. I'll let a woman tell me she is "busy" twice before I stop asking. 3 times if she's REALLY hot. Then it's up to her to make the move & initiate and even if she does initiate i don't engage her much at all. I'm "busy" and can't text. They get the idea and either make an effort or go find someone else to pay attention to them. However, when I interact with a woman I make it clear up front that i'm interested in them romantically and won't be friendzoned.
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