inquiring Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 I broke up with my boyfriend over something petty . He was acting out then and I needed to give him a wake up call... he took my word for it and things stopped. then not too long after he got with another girl and even though its been 2 yrs ...we never got back officially but he kept telling me that he loved me and wanted to have a baby by me . then a couple of months ago the girl he is with got pregnant. And I cut all contacts. But then a couple of weeks after she lost the baby. In January him and I went back again..while he was still with the girl but afterwards the girl is pregnant again and they are getting married next week. My question is ..what do I do? He says he loves me? He says that his mistakes and lack of character brought him to where he is...marrying that girl... I don't want to become his mistress.. but I adore him..what should I do? should I stop all contacts now..Thats what my mind is telling me to do..but my heart is so attached to him..Please help 1
smudge21 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 So you've put your entire young life on hold for someone who is living his and doing whatever the flip he wants, including being with someone he's really in love with (they're having sex and planning a wedding, it's about as serious as it gets). That said, he's a dick who is treating you like dirt and his future bride. The best, and only, thing you should do is run away from this. I know that you are in love with that perfect image of him you've created and that deep down you feel that if he came back to you fully then your life would be perfect, but be honest, you know that's not true. You're holding on to hope when there is none. He's playing you and keeping you sweet, only ever treating you like an option. There's nothing here that says he has any respect or love for you. Judge him by his actions, not his words. You can do so much better, but only if you're willing to let go of the bad and go looking for the good. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 I think you have to let go. First start by realizing he's your EX BF & refer to him as such. In 2 years despite him lying to you & telling you he still loves you, he got with someone else, got her PREGNANT, and is MARRYING her. He chose her. He has responsibilities to his child. You are somebody he used to date, nothing more. Forget him. Move on. 2
angel.eyes Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Honey, stop pining after your cheater ex who is stringing you along and cheating on his pregnant fiancee. Nothing about him makes him a decent choice as a romantic partner. Even if he were sincere about getting back with you, and from his actions, he's clearly not, you would then be saddled with a cheater who you knew was constantly looking for some side action. That's not the type of man you need anywhere near your life. Drop him like a hot potato. 2
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