beachlover966 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 There is this guy that I am seeing and we aren't official yet and he keeps calling me until I answer the phone even when I am busy and unable to be at my phone. Today, I woke up late today and I woke up with 6 missed calls from him and he called me early in the morning while I was sleeping. Is this a bad thing if he keeps calling me until I answer even when it's not an emergency? What should I do about this? Should I be in a relationship with him if he does this? 1
central Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Yeah, it means he's desperate, clingy, and potentially controlling. Or the world revolves around him and what he wants at the moment, regardless of what you're doing. Perhaps it's time to throw him back into the dating pool. 6
PogoStick Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 What does it mean? He's annoying. Probably a deal breaker to lots of people here. Why don't you ask him why he does it? Tell him it's a problem. 3
lilmissjava Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 He expects to be the center of your world. Pass. 1
kztar Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 There is this guy that I am seeing and we aren't official yet and he keeps calling me until I answer the phone even when I am busy and unable to be at my phone. Today, I woke up late today and I woke up with 6 missed calls from him and he called me early in the morning while I was sleeping. Is this a bad thing if he keeps calling me until I answer even when it's not an emergency? What should I do about this? Should I be in a relationship with him if he does this? Needy and Clingy. RED flag. This guy is not your boyfriend but he calls you this much ?. Does he work, sleep and have a normal life. This sounds like he doesn't have anything better to do with his time. If you date him prepare to have to have to explain to him your every move. I would reconsider anything with this guy who is starting like this.
Cherryz Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 You sound very young . You are 15/16?18? Hes sound very annoying, and controlling. Or childish. Break it off and move on. If he already like this, as a boyfriend he will be worse. Let him know that hes calling you extreme much and you dont like it. And you are not interested in going further. If thats your choice too ofcorse.
preraph Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 It means he's a controlling jerk who doesn't respect you at all. He doesn't care if it's convenient for you or not. He has big issues. If you keep him around in any capacity, it is only going to get worse and the longer he is invested, the harder it will be to get rid of him. Honestly, you need to write him one time and tell him you want no further contact with him, now or ever, make no excuses about it, and then block him to save yourself a lot of problems. Controlling and jealous men have a high potential to be dangerous. Get away from them as soon as you know.
deadparrot Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 At the very least, annoying and clingy. At worse, potentially controlling. If you suspect it's the former and you otherwise really like him, you should tell him point-blank that the constant phone calls need to stop. If he doesn't respect that (or if you suspect he's on the controlling end of the spectrum), then you should walk away now.
carhill Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 What does it mean when he keeps calling me until I answer the phone? Pretty simple. He wants something. People are always wanting something. You just happen to be on the menu. I've gotten similar treatment lately, particularly from female teachers seeking out some the antiques I have for sale. Their incessant and repetitive contacts trend to the annoying, causing some empathy for women who encounter similar behaviors from men wanting something from them, probably not antiques
katiegrl Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 At the very least, annoying and clingy. At worse, potentially controlling. If you suspect it's the former and you otherwise really like him, you should tell him point-blank that the constant phone calls need to stop. If he doesn't respect that (or if you suspect he's on the controlling end of the spectrum), then you should walk away now. Agree with this and the others. Next time, tell him you don't appreciate the incessant barrage of phone calls and that he needs to only call ONCE and you will call him back when you can. That you're busy! Also tell him if he can't respect that, then you will have no choice but to walk away. It's annoying and turn off. Tell him that! You teach people how to treat you and if you continue to allow him to do this, you are teaching him that you have no boundaries and that his neediness is okay with you, which it's NOT. 1
Ami1uwant Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 I'm playing devils advicate...... It could have Ben an emergency. Those eho say he is controlling or desparate...I bet we could look though your past and find a similar incident of you tegularly calling.
katiegrl Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 I'm playing devils advicate...... It could have Ben an emergency. Those eho say he is controlling or desparate...I bet we could look though your past and find a similar incident of you tegularly calling. She said he is always doing this though.... Plus don't you think when they finally did talk, he would have told her it was an emergency? She mentioned nothing about it being an emergency.... only that he calls her incessantly until she calls back. I'm sorry that's just super needy... and annoying! 2
GemmaUK Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Controlling, disrespectful and inconsiderate. Three words to sum him up. Plus he tried the guilt trip too saying you wouldn't make a good girlfriend so let's make that list four as he is manipulative as well. What a catch! Those eho say he is controlling or desparate...I bet we could look though your past and find a similar incident of you tegularly calling. Absolutely yes I did - the calls were to Intensive Care at the hospital when my Dad had been admitted in the early days of his 5 month stay in the unit. If the line was engaged I would redial. If the line was ringing but with no answer I figured they had an emergency so I would wait an hour and call again. I've never redialled and redialled anyone else though.
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