IslandDude Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Which do you think is better when asking a girl on a date - texting or calling? Texting - seems to be the "in" thing these days and allows the girl time to actually see if she is free, doesn't put her on the spot to answer immediately but also leaves things open where she may never reply or ignore the ask completely. May make the guy seem less personable since no voice to hear and also may come across as passive (girl might think he's testing many girls asking them out or that he's just sending her a test because he's bored). Calling - much more direct because the question is asked directly and the girl has to respond with something right then and there. More personable because actually hearing each other's voices. Guy may seem bolder since he is risking a live rejection. Girls who are used to texting may not like the surprise of a call. Extra question - does the text or call answer depend on how previous communication has been done? For instance if I've been texting with a girl for several days should I also ask her out via text since that's what we've established as our way of talking?
Offspring Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Call. It used to work in the old days! If you don't know her that well, just call to say hi, see what she's been up to and perhaps ask her out after you've chatted briefly. 1
tayriley Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 how old are you? i think age factors in. as a 30 yr old woman, i FREAKING CAN'T STAND guys that facebook me or text me to ask me out. at the same time, i realize it's the way everyone communicates these days--- even my bosses will text me something important instead of FREAKING CALLING LIKE A NORMAL PERSON. all that said, i'm EXTREMELY underwhelmed by guys that text to ask me out. 9/10 i'll ignore. if i like them, i might give them a chance by telling them to CALL me to make specific plans or tell them i hate texting and to call me sometime. i dont actually hate texting- i just hate how much people overly rely on it to communicate when it is the least productive way to speak to someone. so to answer you, i'll give you a somewhat arbitrary number- if you are over 25 years old, CALL, if you are under 25 years old, you can text, but know that it's SUPER DUPER LAME. there.
PegNosePete Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 In the initial dating stages I would always say calling is better. You get a lot more information such as interest level than you do in an emotionless text. Also if she can't make that date you can negotiate an alternative on the spot rather than wondering for days if she's going to suggest an alternative, if you should suggest an alternative, etc. Calling makes it so much easier. A 5 minute call is better than days of back-and-forth texting. Once you've been dating a while, texting is fine. i realize it's the way everyone communicates these days--- even my bosses will text me something important instead of FREAKING CALLING LIKE A NORMAL PERSON. If everyone communicates these days, you have to wonder who is the normal person and who is the exception 1
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