Pipestove Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Hate hearing stories like this. Unfortunately most women tend jump back in the sack pretty damn fast after a break up. Even gf's I dated for years said they would be looking for a new fling after a month or two of breaking up. I am shocked by how quick some of them move. There is a girl I know that starts dating a new guy within a week of breaking up. Soon as you hear shes single, boom, she makes a profile on numerous dating sites. And she wonders why she cant keep a man. I have also learned through the years those type of women are usually trouble. Women who take their time to get over a hard break up are the ones that truly love the most and also respect themselves. Life could be worse. Move on, there is plenty more out there. Good luck
Blanco Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 5 months after the breakup and I am still struggling very badly. The ex and I broke no contact about 1.5 months ago and had been talking up until this Monday. She had expressed how she still had interest in me and had stronger feelings for me than her current bf, but had to see where the relationship with her current bf would go because she does have feelings for him. After a few disagreements about her deciding to stay with him as opposed to trying something with us again, I finally decided that I was becoming emotionally unsteady again and something had to change. We agreed we would speak in March again and reevaluate the situation then. Is there any point in even seeing where things will be in March? We broke up in May and a big part of me thinks that by March she will either gain more feelings for him or not be interested anymore... I have decided I will still try to move on anyways but it is more difficult now that there is some kind of hope. Does everyone at love shack think theres a chance at reconcilition or should I burn my bridges and move on? No need to burn your bridges but you do need to move on. I mean seriously, you're considering pausing your life for four or five months on the off chance she might want you at that time? Cringe-worthy, my friend. I can't think any woman would be able to respect a guy who was willing to do something so demeaning. 1
Marc878 Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Learn one thing from this. Begging, pleading, writing letters???? It makes you look weak and unattractive and always pushed them further away. No wonder she got colder. the absolute worse thing you can do. You can't make someone do anything. 1
Author andrem11 Posted October 9, 2016 Author Posted October 9, 2016 We agreed on March because that is when they are going on vacation with their friends, so afterwards there would be no official "ties" between them
Blanco Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 Making potential romantic arrangements behind her current boyfriend's back while keeping the ex on the backburner just in case. I can see why you're so hung up on this once in a lifetime gal. 1
Blanco Posted October 9, 2016 Posted October 9, 2016 You won't listen to me but please consider this from someone who's got a decade on you: don't waste your twenties on dead-end, toxic relationships. 2
LD1990 Posted October 10, 2016 Posted October 10, 2016 We agreed on March because that is when they are going on vacation with their friends, so afterwards there would be no official "ties" between them You two didn't agree on anything. She told you the two of you can talk in March because that's what works for her. You went with that because she holds all the cards here.
Author andrem11 Posted November 13, 2016 Author Posted November 13, 2016 It has now been over six months since my ex told me that she was not only seeing someone new, but had already slept with them only weeks after our split. Although I learned in August that she had lied about the sex, the pain felt in the months directly after the breakup was no less real. Looking back at it today, I can easily say that the past half year has been the most difficult time of my life. I longed, I hated, I rebounded, I was depressed. To all of you who may be reading this and are currently going through what I did, I feel your pain. Throughout the breakup, I made many of the mistakes that most on this forum suggest not to make. I continued monitoring her social media, and we reestablished contact in August (she broke no-contact). My ex even told me that she still loved me, and saw her future with me. Although a large part of my felt as though she was stringing me on, I took the bait. She told me this a while ago and it is currently November and she is still with the guy who replaced me. She still tells me that she doesn't know what the future is to hold for us. While I still miss her, the emptiness of her words have begun to lose their meaning to me. I have begun to see that there is more out there than this girl who needs to have her cake and eat it too. It was last night, driving around with my new found friends that for the first time in a long time that I thought to myself that I was actually happy again. Once again I have people to share experiences and laugh with. I was never one to think that I needed friends. I always considered myself a lone wolf in this world. Recently I have begun to reconsider that though. Although much of the healing has to be done on our own time, friendship is one of the great joys in this world, and the thing that I would say has helped me get past that final hurdle. I will once again be going away this week for work. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I feel excited. Instead of dreading what she is doing with him during the weekend, I am excited for what is to come in my own life. Six months after rock bottom I feel free. To all of my friends on here who let me rant and gave me advice when I needed it the most. Thank you. You gave me a glimmer of hope during some of my darkest moments. Although I still get sad from time to time, I truly believe that the storm has passed. To everybody still going through it: keep your heads up and just make it through one day at a time. Spend time with people who make you happy, and eventually the one who makes you sad will mean less and less. Although it is the one thing most people don't want to hear, it is the truth - time heals all wounds. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and I promise all of you that you will make it. 1
Marc878 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Good but it seems you're still in contact. The only way to fully move on is go dark but some just can cut the ties that bind them. It's a weakness that you need to address but you seem to ignore advice and then get burned. Why is that?
Marc878 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 It has now been over six months since my ex told me that she was not only seeing someone new, but had already slept with them only weeks after our split. Although I learned in August that she had lied about the sex, the pain felt in the months directly after the breakup was no less real. Looking back at it today, I can easily say that the past half year has been the most difficult time of my life. I longed, I hated, I rebounded, I was depressed. To all of you who may be reading this and are currently going through what I did, I feel your pain. Throughout the breakup, I made many of the mistakes that most on this forum suggest not to make. I continued monitoring her social media, and we reestablished contact in August (she broke no-contact). My ex even told me that she still loved me, and saw her future with me. Although a large part of my felt as though she was stringing me on, I took the bait. She told me this a while ago and it is currently November and she is still with the guy who replaced me. She still tells me that she doesn't know what the future is to hold for us. While I still miss her, the emptiness of her words have begun to lose their meaning to me. I have begun to see that there is more out there than this girl who needs to have her cake and eat it too. You broke no contact it's not up to her. It was last night, driving around with my new found friends that for the first time in a long time that I thought to myself that I was actually happy again. Once again I have people to share experiences and laugh with. I was never one to think that I needed friends. I always considered myself a lone wolf in this world. Recently I have begun to reconsider that though. Although much of the healing has to be done on our own time, friendship is one of the great joys in this world, and the thing that I would say has helped me get past that final hurdle. I will once again be going away this week for work. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I feel excited. Instead of dreading what she is doing with him during the weekend, I am excited for what is to come in my own life. Six months after rock bottom I feel free. Probably only because she isn't putting the effort into stringing you along. To all of my friends on here who let me rant and gave me advice when I needed it the most. Thank you. You gave me a glimmer of hope during some of my darkest moments. Although I still get sad from time to time, I truly believe that the storm has passed. To everybody still going through it: keep your heads up and just make it through one day at a time. Spend time with people who make you happy, and eventually the one who makes you sad will mean less and less. Although it is the one thing most people don't want to hear, it is the truth - time heals all wounds. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and I promise all of you that you will make it. Read "No More Mr Nice Guy" free PDF download. Women find weakness unattractive but I'm not sure you've learned this. It seems like she just got tired of playing you.
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