jham Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 I have been seeing a guy for about the past 4-4.5 weeks now. He seems to be into me and hold some interest as he texts me just about every day to talk, initiates plans, brings me around his friends and has even asked about previous boyfriend(s). Things seem to be going okay, right? Well, things are moving at a somewhat slow pace. He hasn't really made any moves at all. We kiss every time we are together but that's it. I have slept over his house a few times now but absolutely nothing happens. Not even when we sleep in the same bed. Never any hand holding or cuddling. And of course, no sex has taken place. He's a good guy and all but the lack of physical attempts makes it feel like something is missing and leaves me somewhat bored. Does this mean he only wants to be friends? Is he just being respectful and waiting for the right time to make a move? Is there a certain point where I should just let it go and move on if nothing progresses?
smackie9 Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 No it means that he seems to think he will scare you away and you will feel he is only out for sex....dumb right? We get these guys posting on here all the time. If you want intimacy, YOU need to make the move because he is too afraid to. That is why he has done nothing. 1
smackie9 Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 BTW some guys get real turned on when a women takes charge in the bedroom, .....am I right guys?
deadparrot Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 I'd try and initiate some affection--he could just be very shy or hesitant. I think he genuinely does like you, or he wouldn't keep asking you out. However, it's also possible he has differing preferences in the physical affection realm--that he's not the touchy-feely-cuddly type and/or he has a low sex drive. If that's the case and physical affection/intimacy is important to you, you might want to reevaluate the relationship, because it doesn't bode very well for long-term compatibility. 2
iphone_user1 Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 BTW some guys get real turned on when a women takes charge in the bedroom, .....am I right guys? Oh, yes!!!
sazz8888 Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 Its only been 4 weeks..there is still plenty of time to have sex!!!! He obviously likes you and is into you as he is making the effort. It sounds like he is taking things slowly. If you want to initiate things then you should! Has he been with many girls? Maybe he doesn't have much experience in the bedroom yet?...
Saracena Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 How old are you both and how often do you see each other? As already mentioned he may be relatively inexperienced or waiting on a signal from you. However, I do find the lack of hand-holding or cuddling a bit strange.
Author jham Posted May 17, 2016 Author Posted May 17, 2016 How old are you both and how often do you see each other? As already mentioned he may be relatively inexperienced or waiting on a signal from you. However, I do find the lack of hand-holding or cuddling a bit strange. I am 22 and he is 23. We see each other maybe only 1-2 times a week.
married777 Posted May 17, 2016 Posted May 17, 2016 Why don't you try raising his “emotional temperature”. In other words, you have to tune up the intensity of emotions a man experiences in your presence. The higher the intensity of the emotions, the more his body will force him to claim you. Because if you really think about it…what exactly is love, attraction, desire or affection; and more importantly, how do you even define them? These are nothing but mere emotions and feelings. Therefore when you raise his emotional temperature he will automatically feel a very intense level of attraction and love for you. He will find himself drawn to you in a very mysterious sort of a way, something he won’t exactly be able to point out or put a finger on. But he will feel this intense level of chemistry and attraction towards you. By ‘intense level of chemistry’, I mean, that he will experience a sudden sweet burn in the pit of his stomach and will find himself feeling an almost unreasonable level of desire for you.
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