GirlAsksGuy Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 Been off and on from online dating for a while now. Took a few months break in-between because of the vicious cycle of promising dates not turning into anything more than just a date/fade. I was tired of not being able to find a good connection. Decided to hop back on recently, and started chatting with a guy. Started off very casual but pretty soon we were chatting or checking in just about every day/other day. It was nice. We talked about meeting up, but it took another few weeks before that happened. He initiated (finally!). We meet for coffee, and then spend the next few hours just exploring. I sincerely enjoyed my time with him, a feeling I hadn't experienced in a while, and he said he enjoyed hanging out as well. Conversation flowed nicely, which was a relief because I know text to RL doesn't always translate over well. We agreed to meet up again at some point by the end of the date. I texted afterwards thanking him for a good time and reiterate that I'd love to meet up again soon. His reply was promising and enthusiastic. Cue to about a week later. I'm not usually for the school of thought of playing games and waiting a certain amount of days before reaching out, but I can't really read this guy. Typically, if I'm interested in someone I'll make it clear that I want to see them again. There has been some light banter since the date, but the the frequency of communication has definitely dwindled. Probably not a great sign. Also, no mention of getting together again on his end. It's been a few days now, and as I said before, I enjoyed my time and would like to see him again. Logically, I know if a guy is interested he'll also make it known. I'm not about ready to make excuses for the guy (it's only been 1 date), but just wondering if I should cut my losses or reach out and ask for a 2nd date? Either way, I'd want to know where I stand so I can move on or move forward. Thanks.
Audacious Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 Nope , you should never ever ask a guy on a second date in my opinion . I respect the fact that you're clear on what you want and making that clear to him , yet it seems that he lost interest or just keeping you on the hook just in case .
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