My girlfriend is leaving for a year to study in Germany...any advice would be helpful

[lost_in_pa]

Maybe I can get some help out there for some others who have gone through this situation just as myself. I have been dating this really amazing young woman for the last year and 4 months. I knew from the get go that her dreams consisted of studying overseas and focusing on her career, but that never stopped us from falling in love. She is leaving the end of August to study in Germany for a year. Now to ease our transition, I have had thoughts of breaking up with her to allow us to begin that transisition from seeing each other every fews days to mostly email form. My head was swarming with those ideas the last few weeks and I could hardly keep my mind focused on us at that moment. Three nights ago I broke up with her, explaining my actions and she did agree with me how I felt. I have been lost in my mind trying to see if what I did was the mature reason. I am totally confused at this very moment. I met with her today and she was not being her usual loving self explaining it would just make it even more harder the last few months. But she will be back in February for two weeks between semesters and we even talked about me flying over to visit her once her year is done to travel around Europe together. She is a 4.0 student who got scholarships to pay for her year there and I work full time here in the states. If anyone has any advice please let me know.

[UltimateZen]

You have saved the both of you from a lot of ongoing pain. It is tough, but LDR just do not work. A full time student and a full time worker separated by distance will not work. I advise not even flying out there to visit her unless your intentions are strictly for vacation and you were to stop by to see her as a friend. My advise is to go out with your friends and start rebuilding your dating pool; think of the memories you have shared with her as just that...memories. Move on with your lovelife and try not to torture yourself by expecting the same loving relationship with her.

[lvgrl]

yes and no, sometimes letting go of something/someone can be the worst mistake of your life, and letting go makes you realize that...if you feel that you want to make things work then tell her ASAP, and dont let ANYTHING stand in the way of your heart.