mmx Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 So I met the guy I am dating online. I am embarrassed to admit that is how we met. Makes it seem to me like I couldn't get a guy in person, so I had to resort to this. The other day, Someone asked us how we met and he quickly stated that we met online. I was super embarrassed. I have been telling people that we met through a mutual friend. He will be meeting my friends this week for the first time. Do I need to tell him that this is the story I have been telling people? I really don't want people to find out.
lakerman34 Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 So I met the guy I am dating online. I am embarrassed to admit that is how we met. Makes it seem to me like I couldn't get a guy in person, so I had to resort to this. The other day, Someone asked us how we met and he quickly stated that we met online. I was super embarrassed. I have been telling people that we met through a mutual friend. He will be meeting my friends this week for the first time. Do I need to tell him that this is the story I have been telling people? I really don't want people to find out. No shame in it. Today, Americans are working longer hours than ever. It's HARD to find yourself in a relationship when your life consists of work, going home, prepping dinner, gym, prep for work, bed. We are in the technology age. There are a LOT of couples that are meeting through phone apps and the internet. It's more convenient, and if you've found true love, who cares? If people want to judge, they are either antiquated or suck. 5
CarrieT Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 I met and married a wonderful guy whom I met online - the only difference is that we met via a sex site involving BDSM but we tell everyone who asks that it was through Match or Chemistry. This is the 21st century and how people meet - no biggie anymore! 5
deadparrot Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 You shouldn't feel ashamed, and anyone who thinks less of you for it is either very old, very clueless, or very rude (or some combination thereof). 2
LivingWaterPlease Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 My married neighbor couple met online and are fine with telling people. Also know of others who married people they met online and readily answer that's how it happened. I like that your bf is honest. I know people would consider it a white lie to say you met another way, no biggie, but for me, I really appreciate someone who tells the truth and doesn't feel ashamed of how they're leading their life. And, no, no shame in meeting online. Many are doing it nowadays. 1
TextnHate Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 I get that you are embarrassed.. It feels like you cant get someone in real life and have to resort to online. But really now a days its not something that is frowned upon. My step brother who works for the state and his wife is a really high end doctor met online and even talked about it durning their wedding. If you play it off as no big deal no one will really care. However if it embarrasses you and you just cant get over it just talk to him. About 10 years ago when myspace was around I met the mother of my kid on there. We just told people I met her while she was working cause we were embarrassed to.
mortensorchid Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 I have met tons of people online, either for business or personal reasons. When people ask how we met, I tell them and I feel no shame in it. And if it was on a sex related website, you don't have to tell them which one because that's your business not anyone else's.
MidwestUSA Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 OP, I met my husband on Facebook. No shame. You're dating, congrats!
Author mmx Posted May 17, 2016 Author Posted May 17, 2016 My bf is meeting my family this weekend. We started talking online before we met. For some reason I cringe at telling people how I met my bf. I have been telling people that the first place we met in person is how me met. The other day someone asked us how we met and he quickly piped up "Online!" I was so embarrassed. It just makes me feel like I am not good enough to get someone in person, and that I had to resort to online. I am nervous about it someone how slipping up about us talking online first. He doesn't know how I have been telling me we met. I am assuming he think I am saying online. I don't want anyone to know that we started talking online first. What do I do?
anna121 Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 I won't try and talk you out of your feelings, although I think life would be easier if you just accepted the reality. Just say you met on a blind date. Be vague. No one has to know it was set up by yourselves. But you have to get him onboard.
coolheadal Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Thinks are different today, you can meet online no different than doing it in person. Still are strangers until you really get to know each other. Online just means you talk with your minds. In person not everyone can go up and talk to strangers. Just get out of the fear that you met him online. If you don't want to show him off then call it off if you can't coup with just because you met him online. Doesn't matter if someone next time ask you how you met him just say online and your proud of it!
BluEyeL Posted May 18, 2016 Posted May 18, 2016 Meeting online now became mainstream. Chances are that the person you're telling you two met online also knows at least another couple who also met online. I met my fiancée online , we have been together two years and are getting married next year. One of his best friends also met his wife online, in 2005 and have lived happily since. I have two friends who met their husbands online. It's not unusual anymore and no reason to be embarrassed . I tell everyone we met on match.com Who judges would be truly stupid because really nothing is wrong at all with meeting online, and I really don't care what stupid people think about me .
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