JessicaPink20 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 I went on a first date with a 39 year old man and I am 30. He contacted me online and seemed fascinated with me after seeing my pics. On the date, he flirted with me and even said he would marry me one day and that I was beautiful and started saying all the activities and vacations we would do in the future. He even wanted to get an apartment near me since he is always traveling. He texts me often and says I'm amazing. He then asked me on a weekend beach trip for our 2nd date. I said no and that we can meet for a date where I live. He agreed. Should I run? Is he coming on too strong and does this mean he wants to sleep with me only? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 I don't know about only sleeping w/you but he's def coming on too strong talking about marriage etc. on the first date. Are you sure he's a rich guy? I'd be careful. Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 He's coming on WAY too strong. Talking about marrying, going on a trip when you hardly know him, and moving nearby. This sounds suspiciously like he could become a stalker. Not only that, the things he says about why he's attracted to you are extremely superficial. I'd run from someone like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Sorry to break it to you, but he sounds full of it. Suggesting marriage on a first date is dangling a carrot on a stick. I'd imagine you aren't the first woman he's said that to. 2nd date is the one where he'd have pushed for sex. You're already doing the right thing: giving him some benefit of the doubt, slowing him down, and keeping a healthy amount of suspicion. Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Some older guys are just dorks when it comes to younger, attractive women. I've mentioned it before, but my one ex started dating a wealthy, but kind of dweeby guy about 15 years older than us (we're in our early 30s) and he was already talking about potential trips on the first date. He was just coming out of a marriage/relationship that had lasted his entire adult life, so on top of being a bit of a dork, he had also basically been out of the dating world for a couple of decades. That made her a bit cautious, but proceeded, and they're still together more than a year later. Not saying this guy isn't full of it (and yes, he's coming on way too strong), but sometimes, older guys who catch the eye of a younger, attractive woman, can barely keep from tripping over themselves to lock down these ladies. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jabron1 Posted May 16, 2016 Share Posted May 16, 2016 Some older guys are just dorks when it comes to younger, attractive women. I've mentioned it before, but my one ex started dating a wealthy, but kind of dweeby guy about 15 years older than us (we're in our early 30s) and he was already talking about potential trips on the first date. He was just coming out of a marriage/relationship that had lasted his entire adult life, so on top of being a bit of a dork, he had also basically been out of the dating world for a couple of decades. That made her a bit cautious, but proceeded, and they're still together more than a year later. Not saying this guy isn't full of it (and yes, he's coming on way too strong), but sometimes, older guys who catch the eye of a younger, attractive woman, can barely keep from tripping over themselves to lock down these ladies. Well one of us is right. He's either: 1. A dorky older guy that gets carried away with younger women. or 2. A smart older guy that knows how to play women in their 30s. Like I said, benefit of the doubt mixed with healthy suspicion Link to post Share on other sites
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