Goodguy91 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 (edited) Hello, My girlfriend and I broke up a week ago after a 6 month relationship. She broke up with me for the second time saying that she doesn't feel a romantic connection with me and does not love me and won't love me . The first time she broke up with me was 2 weeks after a close family member died. It lasted 3 days and she came back claiming she was just overthinking and hurting. It was a very hard time for her. Now a month later she broke up with me again for the same reason. During the hard time after the family member death I was selfless and gave her everything I could. Tried to be the best person I could be in her life. We had a very fun relationship never fought and were very loyal. We hung out 4-5 days a week. We never mentioned love or future. I care about her very much and did love her. I messaged her today stating my feelings and that I accept her decision to leave. After our breakup she said that I was perfect and she doesn't know why she feels the way she does. She said she hates to see my heart break and wants to be friends. I told her I could not just be friends. Does anyone think she will come back? I'm starting no contact today. Will that work? Any advice or previous experiences are greatly appreciated. Edited May 15, 2016 by Goodguy91 Title change
LostOnes05 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 Go no contact for yourself. Based on what you wrote, I'd say she isn't coming back. She told you she doesn't love you and I know that hurts. But in order to begin your healing, you can't associate with her. 1
basil67 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 No Contact is an excellent way to get over someone. Keep it up. As for her, you've given her one chance and she's gone and blown it. IF she does come back (and that's a big 'if'), it will only be to dump you again. After all, she's now shown that this is her MO. Protect yourself and stay away from her.
brothers343 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 You already broke up twice and she probably knows that you will take her back.......she might care for you but please don't assume that she is in love with you. Tell her when she is ready than maybe you can try to work on this relationship. But in the meantime go NC and save your emotions for another day.
LD1990 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 Go no contact and don't hold out hope for her coming back. She has made it pretty clear that she doesn't love you, so it sounds like you two just aren't compatible enough in that regard. Love is something you can't force, you either have it for another person or you don't.
Author Goodguy91 Posted May 16, 2016 Author Posted May 16, 2016 Go no contact and don't hold out hope for her coming back. She has made it pretty clear that she doesn't love you, so it sounds like you two just aren't compatible enough in that regard. Love is something you can't force, you either have it for another person or you don't. Do you think she could feel that way due to the recent death? Or most likely actual lack of feelings?
LD1990 Posted May 16, 2016 Posted May 16, 2016 Do you think she could feel that way due to the recent death? Or most likely actual lack of feelings? Based on everything you said it sounds like she just didn't fall in love with you. You two never talked about being in love or a future together. She broke up with you once before. And she straight up told you this breakup that she doesn't and won't love you. Sounds pretty clear cut to me.
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