Beepeear Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 (edited) Hey everyone, I'm sure this is my first post on this site and unfortunately it's not the brightest one to start with Me and my girlfriend broke up about 3 days ago and usually we leave each other for a day and we make up and then we start again. However this time it's different, she ignored a huge portion of what I text her with, I try to talk to her to sort things out but she's just ignoring me, she tells me she still loves me but because she wants to be alone and she has A-level exams coming up shortly she "wants to be alone" something she says quite a lot when we break up. She has been going out a lot, she went to a party last night and has gone straight out again this morning, I'm worried about her. I'm in love with her and I can't help but think whilst I'm feeling the lowest I ever have she's replacing me with someone else or having a good time. She is quite a stubborn person so I'm not sure what she feels, she says I'm the love of her life and that I'm her best friend and stuff (when we were together). I don't necessarily want to move on from her cus she's my first love, she made me feel ways I never have, and talking to anyone else just seems, empty in a way, like there's no point in it kind of I just need help on how to act and what to do right now. Thank you Edited May 15, 2016 by Beepeear
basil67 Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 People who are meant to be together don't break up continuously. For that matter, people who don't want to risk losing a beloved partner don't break up with them at all. There will come a time when one of you will get fed up with all this breaking up and decide to not get back together again. It will be when that person realises that they want a relationship which is secure and comforting. She may well have reached this stage. If she does change her mind, it's crucial that the two of you address and fix the ongoing issues before you get back together. If you can't fix them so as to prevent further breakups, then don't get back together. 3
almond Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 First love = first lesson in cutting your losses and letting go of a relationship that is going nowhere. Let it be. Go NC.
Poutrew Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 She breaks up with you, and tells you she needs to be alone because she has exams. Then she goes out a lot, and hits every party she can wangle an invite too. But she is studying for her exams... but nothing. She is out celebrating her newly single status. She is having party sex with anyone who opens her legs up. If she gets burned out enough and craves boring mediocrity once again, she will call you up and tell you that she can now resume being your girlfriend -until next semester when the exams will start up once again. Dude, wake up. You are her father, and whenever her vagina gets an itch she is finding any alpha male to scratch it for her. The only thing she will be giving you in the future is an STD the alpha juices into her at some wild party... sorry for being so direct, but this gal is not the one you want. Do not waste yourself on her. Spend some time recuperating, licking your wounds, then move on to greener pastures.
preraph Posted May 15, 2016 Posted May 15, 2016 I can't read her mind and tell you what she's doing with her spare time, but I can tell you this: If someone tells you to leave them alone, leave them alone. By not doing so, you are the one ending your relationship by not respecting her wishes. You are broken up right this moment and she can do whatever she wants to do. Leave her alone and do NOTHING. And see if she comes back around acting like nothing ever happened, but if she does, you've either got to trust her or let her go.
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