Can I rescue this relationship? Is it too late?

[valeriewaters]

Did I look desperate already?

[Zahara]

Did I look desperate already?

 

No, you didn't. Now that he has not responded to you, don't reach out anymore.

[preraph]

You not only look crazy and desperate but you are actually stalking him. He is not interested in you at all. He is never going to be. You are trying to force him to talk to you by renting from him, and if he leaves you there, yes, he will be forced to make polite conversation from time to time, but that's all it is, and he'd rather not or he wouldn't have restricted you. He is already on to you.

[valeriewaters]

What do you mean "he is already on to you"?

[lana-banana]

He already knows you're interested in him and trying to worm your way back into his life; if he hadn't thought that, he wouldn't have gone to the trouble of blocking you on Facebook. That was a proactive step on his part to prevent you from making further contact.

 

Your texts to him seemed pretty desperate to me. Don't contact him again.

[frus69]

Yeah, not wishing to sound cruel but you're gonna end up making yourself look a little crazy.

 

 

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A "little" crazy?

[valeriewaters]

My most recent text was "Just curious, did the person who saw the room like it?".

 

This sounds that desperate?

[Versacehottie]

He already knows you're interested in him and trying to worm your way back into his life; if he hadn't thought that, he wouldn't have gone to the trouble of blocking you on Facebook. That was a proactive step on his part to prevent you from making further contact.

 

Your texts to him seemed pretty desperate to me. Don't contact him again.

 

He is accepting your messages in reference to the apartment (getting paid, status of when you are moving out). He has blocked you socially on FB. What does that tell you?

 

To me, from a business sense he is forced to deal with you to get his rent money and manage his business; HOWEVER, socially and personally he wants no contact with you--that's why you are blocked in that regard. It's not that hard to figure out. Sorry, but you do sound really obsessed and if the nature of the way you have dealt with us on this thread mirrors the way you have been dealing with him, I can see why he's made these decisions. It's frustrating and not reality-based. I'm sorry. He is not interested.

[valeriewaters]

He didn't block me. He restricted me. He could have just unfriended me.

 

Can I text him on a weekend night around 11pm "What are you up to?"

 

That way, we can actually hang out.

[RedPurpleOrange]

A "little" crazy?

 

 

I err on the side of being "nice but honest".

 

 

When pushed, I will tell someone they are proper bat***** insane. ;)

 

 

I follow this path in my real life as well as my online one.

 

 

If I lose friends? Well, they were never as good as me.

[frus69]

Can I text him on a weekend night around 11pm "What are you up to?"

 

That way, we can actually hang out.

 

No..you won't...

[valeriewaters]

He may respond if he's not doing anything. No?

[LivingWaterPlease]

He may respond if he's not doing anything. No?

 

No, he won't.

[SwordofFlame]

I'm going to disagree with the other posters here. If you want to pursue him, why not? Just keep your expectations really low. What have you got to lose?

[valeriewaters]

I will text him "What are you up to?" once and obviously if he doesn't respond, I won't text him ever again. I'm not going to chase him after that.

 

So what do I have to lose by sending him one text message?

[Blanco]

So what do I have to lose by sending him one text message?

 

The ability to honestly say, "no one has a restraining order against me."

[frus69]

 

So what do I have to lose by sending him one text message?

 

I thought you didn't want to look crazy and desperate?

 

 

if you don't care what he thinks about you, then by all means, chase him like there is no tomorrow

[valeriewaters]

Sending him one "What are you up to?" is not chasing.

 

If he doesn't respond, and I keep texting him, then that is chasing.

[Blanco]

Have some self respect, at least. Guys aren't like this if they have any romantic interest in you. At this point, he appears to see you as a headache not even worth pursuing something strictly sexual with. Please respect that, if nothing else.

[deadparrot]

Sending him one "What are you up to?" is not chasing.

 

If he doesn't respond, and I keep texting him, then that is chasing.

 

He isn't responding to anything other than your business-related questions.

Edited May 27, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator